One of the reasons we live is to be our own master, is to control our lives, is to take charge of our lives. Taking control of our lives does not come easy in a society where everybody wants a piece of you. Everyone wants something from you. The question is: “Can you please everyone?”
“If you want to imitate anyone, imitate yourself.”
No, you can’t. That is if you are really honest with yourself. You cannot please everyone. If you try to do it, you will never have time for yourself. It is okay to listen to people, but don’t try to please everyone. If you do, you will fail.
“You deserve a better life. You deserve to live your life in your own way. You deserve to have a healthy life. But if you put everyone’s interests before yours, you will find it difficult to live a good life.”
In the words of Marva Collins, “Trust yourself, think for yourself, act for yourself, speak for yourself, be yourself, imitation is suicide.” He is absolutely right. If you want to live your life in your own way, you MUST trust yourself. You must think for yourself. You must act for yourself. You must speak for yourself. You must be yourself. You MUST NEVER IMITATE ANYONE. If you want to imitate anyone, imitate yourself.
One can’t be successful without first knowing who one is. Life will be much more easier for you if you know who you are, what you want, where you are going, and how to get there. You cannot achieve anything of value if you are not functioning at your highest level. You cannot achieve anything great if you are just passing time. If you pass time, time will pass you.
If you want to become the person that you have always wanted to be, you MUST master yourself. You must master your life. Here are some additional steps to take if you are to become who you want to be:
“Remember to always be yourself. Unless you suck.”– Joss Whedon, American producer
The first thing to do if you want to become who you want to be is to be yourself. Yourself, but nothing else. If you are not yourself, who are you? To be yourself, you MUST believe in yourself, trust yourself, love yourself, accept yourself, think for yourself, and celebrate yourself. Don’t compete with others; cooperate with others. If even you want to compete, let it be against yourself. Remember to always be yourself if you want to succeed.
“Dig your well before you’re thirsty.“- Harvey Mackay
There is power in preparation. Always prepare yourself to succeed. Don’t underestimate anything. Always prepare yourself to seize anything opportunity. Don’t wait for people to tell you what to do. Do it before they even have the chance to tell you anything. The secret to success is preparation, preparation, preparation.
Don’t Resist Change.
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them- that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally toward in whatever way they like.”- Lao Tzu
Change is important to your growth and development. Don’t resist change. Allow things to flow. Allow things to happen the way it ought to be, not the way you want it to be. Change is a way to learn, to understand yourself, to know others, to think in different ways, to get out of comfort zone. If you don’t understand why change is been proposed, don’t resist it. Find a way to understand why the change is been proposed. Change is not funny, so is status quo. If you want your life to change, embrace change. Don’t resist it. In the words of JIm Rohn, “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”
“It is the small disciplines that lead to great accomplishments.”- Jim Rohn
There is no success without discipline. If you want to become who you want to be, you must discipline yourself. Do the things that are important to you. Don’t spend your time on things that are not getting you any closer to your dreams. For example, if you have an important project to work on, instead of watching the TV, spend time on your project. You can watch your TV later. In other words, according Stephen Covey, “Do the first thing first.” Focus on what will make you a better, smarter person.
“If you have everything under control, you are not moving fast enough.”– Mario Andretti, Race Car Driver
If you have everything under control in your life, it means you are not moving fast enough. It means you are not taking calculated risks. It means you are playing it too safe. It is okay to play it safe, but know when to say, ‘enough is enough.’ If you want to take risks, make sure that the risks are worth taking. Make sure they are going to help you become a better person. Don’t take risks because people pressured you to do so. Take risks because you know is the right thing to do. Remember to look before you jump. Don’t jump before you look.
Failure is Inevitable.
“Failure is inevitable, make it a strength.”- J.K. Rowling
Failure is a part of life. It is a part of the game of life. If you want to move forward, if you want to learn, if you want to be a better person, you MUST embrace failure. It is okay to failure, but don’t make it a habit. If you fail at something, don’t beat yourself up. Listen to yourself. Learn from failure, and move on. Michael Jordan said, “I can accept failure, everyone fail at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” Failure is not a crime, not trying is. If you want to be better than you are today, don’t let the fear of failure stops you from pursuing your purpose in life.