Why Do We Forgive?

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“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”- Lewis B. Smedes

Forgiveness means freedom. When you forgive those who have hurt you, you are not letting them off the hook of pain, you are letting yourself off the hook of pain and resentment. When you forgive people, you are letting go of the past. You are now ready to move forward. It does not mean you are letting the other person go unpunished. It means that you are letting go of the pain inflicted upon you by that person.

So, why do we forgive?

In her book The How of Happiness: A New Approach To Getting The Life You Want, Sonja Lyubomirsky writes: “In the long run, the preoccupation, hostility, and resentment that we harbor serve only to hurt us, both emotionally and physically.” She adds: “Forgiveness can be regarded in the larger context of community and society; it can deepen our sense of shared humanity (that we are not alone in experiencing hurts) and strengthens our personal relationships and our wider connections with others.”

You forgive people to let yourself off the hook of pain and resentment, to let go of the past, to be yourself again, to enjoy your life, to live in the moment, to focus on what is relevant to you and others, to be happy, to improve your health and well-being, to let the other person go, to free yourself from prisoner, to connect with loving people, to build your character, and to love and be loved again.

Don’t allow resentment to poison your life. Choose happiness, love, humility, courage, gratitude, and forgiveness, and move on. Enjoy your life!

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“Kindness, I’ve Discovered, Is Everything In Life.”

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Kindness is everything we need in life. Are you kind to yourself? Are you kind to people? Are you putting people’s interests before yours? Are hurting people or helping them? Are you treating people with respect? Are you reaching out to people in need? Are you living for yourself? Or are you living for yourself and others?

The art of kindness is the art of living together. It is the art of working together. It is the art of reaching out to people who critically need our help. We are not created to be alone; we are created to live, work, help, play, and eat together. According to social psychology, “human beings are social animals.”

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Make people happy. Hug them. Tell them you love them them. Tell them they are beautiful. Give people life. Inject hope into people’s lives. Don’t add sorrow to people’s lives. Add joy, happiness, and fun to people’s lives. They need your love. They need your time. They need your smile. They need your call. Call people you have not heard from, and tell them you just want to see how they are doing. They will appreciate it, and you will appreciate it, too.

“Kindness, I’ve discovered, is everything in life.”- Isaac Bashevis Singer

Albert Schweitzer, theologian, said, “Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate.”

Be kind to yourself. Be kind to people, and they will be kind to you.

3 Pat Summitt Quotes On How To Take Responsibility For Your Actions

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Success starts with taking responsibility for our actions. Successful people take responsibility for their actions. They don’t blame people. They blame themselves. So, if you want to change things that are not working for you, if you want to really fix the mess that you have created in your life, take responsibility. Hold yourself accountable for what you have done to yourself and the people around you.

There is power in taking responsibility for your actions. It gives you control over your life. But if you blame other people for what you have done to yourself, you are giving your power away. You are telling them ‘to control you.’ You are telling them to help you fix your problems. Look, if they manage to help you, who do you think will be the master? To be your own master, to control your life, take responsibility to fix your own mess. Don’t give the key to your life to anyone. No matter what, hold on to it.

Let us see what Pat Summitt says about the art of taking responsibility:

Accountability is the essential to personal growth, as well as team growth. How can you improve if you are never wrong? If you don’t admit a mistake and take responsibility for it, you are bound to make the same mistake again.”- Pat Summitt, coach

To grow in life, in your career, in your relationships with good people, you MUST learn how to say, “I am sorry.” This is the issue with lots of people, including myself. If you make a mistake, admit it. Don’t try to defend yourself. If you do, you are making the situation worse for yourself, because the person you are dealing with is not going to be happy with you. In order to avoid that, you must be very good at admitting a mistake. That is the only way out of trouble. It is not easy to do. Learn how to say ‘you are sorry.’ Practice it. Make it a habit, and you will overcome it.

“If you don’t want responsibility, don’t sit in the big chair. To be successful, you must accept full responsibility.”- Pat Summitt, coach

If you want to achieve success in life, you MUST learn how to take responsibility. No one will take it for you. Responsibility is holding yourself accountable for your failures and successes. It means you are responsibility for your life. It means you are answerable to yourself. It means you are the one who is in control of your life. If you want to do great things, learn how to take responsibility.

“Responsibility equals accountability equals ownership. And a sense of ownership is the most powerful weapon a team or organization can have.”- Pat Summitt, coach

When you take responsibility for your actions, it means you are the OWNER of your life. It means you are in control of your life. It means you are the one driving your life. It means you are ready to take the rough rough road to success. A sense of ownership is what you need to succeed in life. Whatever you do, own it.

12 Quotes On How To Live A Better Life

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The reason you are here on earth is to live a great life. But you cannot live a great life if you don’t know how to live it. I have put together great quotes, from great minds on how to live fabulously. Hope they help you, too.

Let us learn from them.

Never doubt yourself.

“Believe you can and you are halfway there.”- Theodore Roosevelt

Stop making excuses

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”- Theodore Roosevelt

Believe in your dreams

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”- Eleanor Roosevelt

Help someone succeed

“We cannot help everyone, but everyone can help someone.”- Ronald Regan

Start something to be great

“You don’t have to be great at something to start, but you have to start to be great at something.”- Zig Ziglar

Do you know where you are going?

“It does not matter where you are coming from. All that matters is where you are going.”- Brian Tracy

Do you like the quality of your life?

“The quality of life is the quality of your relationships.”- Tony Robbins

You can’t control other people, but you can control yourself.

“How people treat you is there karma; how you react is yours.”- Dr. Wayne Dyer

What are you thinking about?

“You become what you think about.”- Earl Nightingale

What are you doing to achieve your goals?

“People with goals succeed because they know where they are going.”- Earl Nightingale

Your self-worth

“When your self-worth goes up, your net worth goes up with it.”- Mark Victor Hansen

Make your own way

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson