4 Critical Things You Should Know About Failure, And Why?

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What is failure? Do we really understand what failure is?

Failure, according to B. F. Skinner, “A failure is not always a mistake, it may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying.” When you fail at something, you are not a failure. You are just trying to find a better way to do something. The real failure is when you stop trying, when you give up, when you call yourself a failure.

People are not living their lives because they don’t want to fail. They don’t want to embarrass themselves. People fail in life because they set unrealistic goals for themselves. They want to be perfect at what they do. But, the reality is, you cannot be perfect at everything that you do.

People don’t want to fail because it hurts. According to Napoleon Hill, “… failure breaks down one’s morale, destroys self-confidence, subdue enthusiasm, dulls imagination, and drives away definiteness of purpose.”

Here are four things you should know about failure, and how to embrace them:

Failure leads to success. The road to success is through the iron gate of failure. When you fail at something, check what happened, think how you can make it better, learn from it, and move on. You cannot get to success without multiple failures. If you want to succeed, love to fail. Learn to fail, and fail well.

Failure is an opportunity to grow. According to Napoleon Hill, “Failure is a blessing in disguise. There is a solution to every legitimate problem, no matter how difficult the problem may seem.” When you fail, take it as an opportunity to learn more about it. Failure is not a weakness, it is a strength.

Failure is a temporary defeat. Failure is not a permanent thing unless you make it so. Failure is a part of the journey to finding true success. If you don’t fail, you cannot learn. You learn by failing.

Failure is not real. Failure is not real if learn from it. It is real if you fail to learn something new from your mistakes. Sometimes, what we call failure is not really failure, but a temporary stop. If you want to succeed, make your failures temporary, not permanent.

Failure is not the end of life, it is the beginning of life. It is the beginning of success, growth, and happiness.

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6 Important Ways To Become The Person You Want To be

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One can’t be successful without first knowing who one is. Life will be much more easier for you if you know who you are, what you want, where you are going, and how to get there. You cannot achieve anything of value if you are not functioning at your highest level. You cannot achieve anything great if you are just passing time. If you pass time, time will pass you.

If you want to become the person that you have always wanted to be, you MUST master yourself. You must master your life. Here are some additional steps to take if you are to become who you want to be:

Be Yourself.

“Remember to always be yourself. Unless you suck.”– Joss Whedon, American producer

The first thing to do if you want to become who you want to be is to be yourself. Yourself, but nothing else. If you are not yourself, who are you? To be yourself, you MUST believe in yourself, trust yourself, love yourself, accept yourself, think for yourself, and celebrate yourself. Don’t compete with others; cooperate with others. If even you want to compete, let it be against yourself. Remember to always be yourself if you want to succeed.

Always prepare.

“Dig your well before you’re thirsty.“- Harvey Mackay

There is power in preparation. Always prepare yourself to succeed. Don’t underestimate anything. Always prepare yourself to seize anything opportunity. Don’t wait for people to tell you what to do. Do it before they even have the chance to tell you anything. The secret to success is preparation, preparation, preparation.

Don’t Resist Change.

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them- that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally toward in whatever way they like.”- Lao Tzu

Change is important to your growth and development. Don’t resist change. Allow things to flow. Allow things to happen the way it ought to be, not the way you want it to be. Change is a way to learn, to understand yourself, to know others, to think in different ways, to get out of comfort zone. If you don’t understand why change is been proposed, don’t resist it. Find a way to understand why the change is been proposed. Change is not funny, so is status quo. If you want your life to change, embrace change. Don’t resist it. In the words of JIm Rohn, “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”

Discipline Yourself.

“It is the small disciplines that lead to great accomplishments.”- Jim Rohn

There is no success without discipline. If you want to become who you want to be, you must discipline yourself. Do the things that are important to you. Don’t spend your time on things that are not getting you any closer to your dreams. For example, if you have an important project to work on, instead of watching the TV, spend time on your project. You can watch your TV later. In other words, according Stephen Covey, “Do the first thing first.” Focus on what will make you a better, smarter person.

Take Risks.

“If you have everything under control, you are not moving fast enough.”– Mario Andretti, Race Car Driver

If you have everything under control in your life, it means you are not moving fast enough. It means you are not taking calculated risks. It means you are playing it too safe. It is okay to play it safe, but know when to say, ‘enough is enough.’ If you want to take risks, make sure that the risks are worth taking. Make sure they are going to help you become a better person. Don’t take risks because people pressured you to do so. Take risks because you know is the right thing to do. Remember to look before you jump. Don’t jump before you look.

Failure is Inevitable.

“Failure is inevitable, make it a strength.”- J.K. Rowling

Failure is a part of life. It is a part of the game of life. If you want to move forward, if you want to learn, if you want to be a better person, you MUST embrace failure. It is okay to failure, but don’t make it a habit. If you fail at something, don’t beat yourself up. Listen to yourself. Learn from failure, and move on. Michael Jordan said, “I can accept failure, everyone fail at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” Failure is not a crime, not trying is. If you want to be better than you are today, don’t let the fear of failure stops you from pursuing your purpose in life.