Who are you friends? Who are the people you spend your time with? Are they lifting you up or putting you down? Are they growing or dying? Are they positive or negative people?
It is your choice. It is up to you to decide how you want to spend your time. Remember, time is gold. Time is everything in life. If you waste your time, you waste your life.
We don’t just need people around us; we need great people around us. You need great people in your life. People who will help you succeed in life. People who will lift you up when you are down. People who will bring light into your life. People who will never hurt you. People who are doing productive and great things with their lives. You need them. They will challenge you to be better than you are today. They will encourage you to do the impossible. They will tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.
Nadia Comaneci said, “I believe that you should gravitate to people who are doing productive and positive things with their lives.” If you want to grow, if you want to be a champion, this is a good advice for you. You cannot be a winner if you keep associating yourself with losers.
When you associate yourself with people who are doing great things with their lives, before long, you will start to do great things. You will start to think and work like them. Find a person who is doing well in life, and research what they did, and how they did it. Make it a habit of listening to great people, people who have done great things with their lives. Before long, you will start to think and act like them.
If you do what other successful people are doing, you will be successful.
One can’t be successful without first knowing who one is. Life will be much more easier for you if you know who you are, what you want, where you are going, and how to get there. You cannot achieve anything of value if you are not functioning at your highest level. You cannot achieve anything great if you are just passing time. If you pass time, time will pass you.
If you want to become the person that you have always wanted to be, you MUST master yourself. You must master your life. Here are some additional steps to take if you are to become who you want to be:
“Remember to always be yourself. Unless you suck.”– Joss Whedon, American producer
The first thing to do if you want to become who you want to be is to be yourself. Yourself, but nothing else. If you are not yourself, who are you? To be yourself, you MUST believe in yourself, trust yourself, love yourself, accept yourself, think for yourself, and celebrate yourself. Don’t compete with others; cooperate with others. If even you want to compete, let it be against yourself. Remember to always be yourself if you want to succeed.
“Dig your well before you’re thirsty.“- Harvey Mackay
There is power in preparation. Always prepare yourself to succeed. Don’t underestimate anything. Always prepare yourself to seize anything opportunity. Don’t wait for people to tell you what to do. Do it before they even have the chance to tell you anything. The secret to success is preparation, preparation, preparation.
Don’t Resist Change.
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them- that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally toward in whatever way they like.”- Lao Tzu
Change is important to your growth and development. Don’t resist change. Allow things to flow. Allow things to happen the way it ought to be, not the way you want it to be. Change is a way to learn, to understand yourself, to know others, to think in different ways, to get out of comfort zone. If you don’t understand why change is been proposed, don’t resist it. Find a way to understand why the change is been proposed. Change is not funny, so is status quo. If you want your life to change, embrace change. Don’t resist it. In the words of JIm Rohn, “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”
“It is the small disciplines that lead to great accomplishments.”- Jim Rohn
There is no success without discipline. If you want to become who you want to be, you must discipline yourself. Do the things that are important to you. Don’t spend your time on things that are not getting you any closer to your dreams. For example, if you have an important project to work on, instead of watching the TV, spend time on your project. You can watch your TV later. In other words, according Stephen Covey, “Do the first thing first.” Focus on what will make you a better, smarter person.
“If you have everything under control, you are not moving fast enough.”– Mario Andretti, Race Car Driver
If you have everything under control in your life, it means you are not moving fast enough. It means you are not taking calculated risks. It means you are playing it too safe. It is okay to play it safe, but know when to say, ‘enough is enough.’ If you want to take risks, make sure that the risks are worth taking. Make sure they are going to help you become a better person. Don’t take risks because people pressured you to do so. Take risks because you know is the right thing to do. Remember to look before you jump. Don’t jump before you look.
Failure is Inevitable.
“Failure is inevitable, make it a strength.”- J.K. Rowling
Failure is a part of life. It is a part of the game of life. If you want to move forward, if you want to learn, if you want to be a better person, you MUST embrace failure. It is okay to failure, but don’t make it a habit. If you fail at something, don’t beat yourself up. Listen to yourself. Learn from failure, and move on. Michael Jordan said, “I can accept failure, everyone fail at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” Failure is not a crime, not trying is. If you want to be better than you are today, don’t let the fear of failure stops you from pursuing your purpose in life.
People are really good at heart. Anne Frank said, “I keep ideals, because in spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart.” Sometimes people don’t really mean to harm us. People want to be good to us. They don’t want to hurt you, but their actions may not come across to you the way they intended.
We are upset when people’s actions, their words do not match their intentions. If you find yourself in such a situation, just let the person know your real intentions.
We have more in common than you think. We are not really different. We are connected. We need each other to survive. You need me. I need you. No one succeed alone. People helped you succeed- your parents, your teachers, your spouse, your boss (bad and good), your coach (if you have one), and your religious leaders. They all helped you to get to this point.
We all need the same good things in life- health, wealth, great friends, and a great place to work, to name a few. We are all connected, and when one is sick, all is sick. When anything affects anyone of us, all of us are affected. Anne Frank said, “We all live with the objective of being happy, our lives are all different and yet the same.” We can be different and still be happy. Yes, it is possible.
If you want to live happily with someone who is not like you, focus on what you have in common, not on your differences.When you focus on what you have in common, it opens up an opportunity for you to explore your differences. But when you focus on your differences, you are widening the distance between you and your neighbor. The world is beautiful! Reach out to your neighbors.
If you want to know people, reach out to them. Don’t judge them from a distance. The only way to know people is to live with them. If you don’t know me, don’t judge me? If you don’t know people, don’t judge them.