How To Use The Power Of Self-Discipline To Change Your Life

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Self-discipline is the foundation upon which success is built. Self-discipline is doing what you don’t like to do. Self-discipline is doing something right in the face of obstacles. Self-discipline is doing what is important, not what is urgent.

If you want to be happy, to be successful, to be productive, you MUST earn a degree in self-discipline. You must discipline yourself. You must stick to your plans, to your goals, to your dreams. You must make the art of self-discipline a habit. You must practice it on a daily basis. You must live it.

You can discipline yourself to success if you want to. If you want to do it, to put yourself on the right track, start small. Start by disciplining yourself in small ways. For example, if you say you want to do something, no matter what is happening around you, stick to what you say you want to do. It is not comfortable, but it is doable. Jim Rohn, a motivational speaker, said, “It is the small disciplines that lead to great accomplishments.” Don’t force yourself to be perfect at it the first time. If you think like that, you will get frustrated. Give yourself time to get used to it.

Self-discipline is hard. When you are trying to get something done, focus on where you are going and what you are going to get- the results- when you get there. Don’t focus on the toughness of the process. If you do that, you will be frustrated.

Stop telling yourself ‘you can’t do it.’ Stop telling yourself ‘it can’t be done.’ Start telling yourself that ‘everything is doable.’ Stay away from making excuses. The more excuses that you make, the weaker you will be. To make things happen in your life, stop making excuses and start taking responsibility. That is the only way to conquer fear. That is the only way to get results that you are looking for.

According to Dr. Scott Peck, “Self-discipline is doing the unnatural.” He is right. It is teaching yourself to do the right thing, even when it is not popular. It is setting priorities to get things done. If you want to get ahead, set priorities, and follow through. The results will shock you. Try it!


Everything Starts With A Dream

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If you want to achieve success in life, don’t let your dream go. Stick to your dream. Dreams are what keep us going. Everything starts with a dream.

What is your dream? What are you planning to achieve in the future? How do you envision your life tomorrow? It starts with a single dream.

One thing is to have a dream. Another thing is to keep it alive. How do you plan to keep your dream alive?

To keep your dream alive, you must do what it takes to breathe air into your dream. You must stick it in your mind. You must think about it everyday. You must be consistent with your dream. Don’t say you want one thing today, and tomorrow you want another. If you keep doing that, it will take time for you to realize your dream. Marcus Aurelius said, “If you don’t have a consistent goal in life, you can’t live it in a consistent way.” You have to know what you want before you even call it your dream. Don’t waste your time pursuing a dream that is not going to survive. Pursuing the wrong dream is like not having a dream. If you plan to achieve something, let it be what is within your reach.

To bring your dream to reality, you have to do whatever it takes to get it done. Dreams come with obstacles. It is not going to be easy for you to get it done, but you can get it done. If you fail at it the first time, get back up and start fighting for what you want. Carol Burnett said, “When you have a dream, you have to grab it and never let it go.” If you really want your dream to come true, if you really want your life to change, you must do whatever it takes to make it happen. If not, it is just a dream.

Making your dreams come true starts with you. You have to believe in yourself- in your skills, determination, perseverance. Harvey Mackey said, “When you have a dream that you can’t let go, trust your instinct and pursue it. But remember: real dreams take work, they take patience, and sometimes they require you to dig down very deep. Be sure you are willing to do that.” Dreams come with a price. If you are ready to do the work, to pay the price, to make yourself uncomfortable, to get out of your comfort zone, your dream will come true. Until you make that decision- the decision to succeed- it is just a dream.

Sometimes to make things happen, we must put them in front of us. We must work on them every day. We must think about them every day. We must talk about them every day. We must live them. Marcus Aurelius, the great philosopher, said, “Stick to what’s in front of you- idea, action, utterance.” I will add: “Stick your dream in front of you.” When you stick it in front of you, you will never stop thinking about it.

Remember, everything starts with a dream. What is your dream?

Obstacle Is The Way

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Obstacle is the way to success. If you want to succeed in life, in your relationships, in your business, embrace obstacles. You cannot succeed in life if you keep avoiding obstacles. Only the small-minded people want to succeed without facing obstacles. I hope you are not one of them.

Obstacles are in your way for a reason: to make you a better thinker. There is happiness when you overcome obstacles. When you overcome one, it does not matter how small, you will feel good about yourself. You will want to fight forward. It builds your confidence. It makes you stronger.

Whenever you face or run into obstacles, don’t run away. Stay with them. Think about them. If there is no way forward, change your strategies, change your path to your goals. Don’t quit. You can still succeed. It will take a little longer to get there, but you will get there.

You will get there!

How To Flourish In The Face Of Obstacles

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“Most of our obstacles will melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them.”- Orison Swett Marden

There is no life without obstacles. No one has succeeded without facing obstacles. Sometimes what we call obstacles are not really obstacles, they are transit zones for you to think, plan, and move on. What happens to us is not an obstacle until we call it an obstacle.

We cannot live life without obstacles. We cannot live life without temporary defeats. We cannot live life without having to stop, reflect, and think. If you want to be better than others, you must expect obstacles in your life. They are part of who we are. They are here to stay. They are not going anywhere.

Successful people expect obstacles; unsuccessful people avoid obstacles.

Obstacles are opportunities in disguise. Obstacles are here to strengthen you; they are not here to break you. When you face obstacles, don’t avoid them. Learn from them. Try to understand why you are facing them. They will prepare you for tougher times. Without obstacles, we cannot grow. We must cross the bridge between obstacles and success. If you want to be successful, you must face obstacles. In other words, you must do what is required of you before you can make it in life. You must do your homework. You must meet the right people. You must live in the right place. You must study the right courses. You must read the right books. You must be in a positive state of mind.

Most successful people overcame multiple obstacles before they succeeded. If they can do it, you can do it, too. Success is the result of multiple failures. Success is the result of overcoming multiple obstacles.

So, how do we face obstacles when they come to light?

Here are some strategies to overcome obstacles:

Expect it.

When you come to term that life is not without difficulties, it is easier for you handle anything that stays in your way. When you don’t expect obstacles, it becomes very difficult for you to adjust and handle the situation when you face them. When you are planning to do something new, always prepare for the unknown. The unknown, in this case, is the obstacle.

Face it.

When things are not happening the way we wanted them to be- in your life, in your projects, do not quit, do not abandon them. Look for other ways to get them done. Once you quit, you will quit again whenever things get tougher.

Be optimistic.

When things are not going your way, it is not the time to start coming up with all the reasons they won’t work. It is the time to remain positive about the situation. It is the time to remain hopeful and be optimistic.

Believe in yourself.

Success starts with self-belief. If you believe in yourself, there is nothing you cannot accomplish. If you don’t believe in yourself, even when you have all the necessary materials, you will still find it difficult to succeed.

Know what you want.

This is the first step to success. Knowing what you want to achieve in life, knowing where you are going in life, makes everything you encounter on the way easier to manage. It motivates you to stay in the game of life. It gives you the energy you need to stay and finish what you have started.

Imagine the things you are fighting for.

Imagination will help you stay in the game of life, no matter how difficult the situation might be. Try to imagine how successful you will be once you have finished your project. On the contrary, imagination will help you to see what will happen if you quit the game of life. Imagining how your life will be after you conquer what you are going through will be a source of power for you.

Handle fear in productive ways.

When you are starting a new journey, the first thing that comes to mind is fear. Fear cripples people. Fear takes people’s dreams away. To advance in the face of obstacles, you must handle fear in a productive way or ways, because with fear comes doubts and billions of reasons why your projects won’t work. Don’t let fear stop you from pushing forward. Don’t let fear stop you from competing. You are created to thrive, not to survive. You are created to prosper, not to survive.

Discipline yourself.

According to experts, self-discipline is doing the thing or things you don’t want to do. To be successful, you must discipline yourself. You must give it all you have, even when you don’t want to do it. You must discipline yourself against distractions. You must pay no attention to distractions. You must discipline yourself to remain laser focused on your goals. Without discipline, all other things will fall apart.

Finally, you can flourish in the face of obstacles if you make things happen rather than letting them happen to you. Create the life that you want and go get it. “Yes, you can.”- Obama