The Importance Of Self-Confidence

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What is self-confidence? Why do we need it? Self-confidence means self-acceptance. It means you have positive feelings about yourself. It means you respect yourself, value yourself, no matter what. It means you are comfortable in your own skin. It means you feel good about yourself, no matter where you work, what you do, or where you live. In other words, self-confidence is unconditional.

If you are to succeed in life, self-confidence is the best human quality to develop. It starts everything for you. It keeps things going for you. When you are confident in yourself, when you believe in yourself, you can achieve anything that you set out to accomplish in life. Without it, no one can achieve anything. When you believe in yourself, you don’t need people’s approval to do things. It means you are the owner of your life, including your decisions. It attracts success into your life. It attracts confident people into your life. It gives you the power to do things, because you believe in yourself. It gives you the courage to ask for what you want, and with effort, you will get it. It makes things easier for you, because you believe in yourself.

But when you lack self-confidence, you start to question your own existence, your self-worth, and you doubt yourself. It makes simple things difficult because you don’t believe in yourself. Even when people tell you something great about yourself, you don’t believe them. It makes sense because, if you don’t believe in yourself, no one will believe in you. Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you inferior without your consent.” Yes, without your consent.

To build your self-confidence, you MUST first believe in yourself. You must first believe in your ability to get things done. You must focus on what you are good at, not on what you are not good at. You must start to do the things that scare you to death. But with caution. Don’t stay around negative people. They are negative because they don’t believe in positive things. They are negative because they believe everything in life is negative. If you stay around them, you are hurting yourself, your life, and your future. Don’t criticize yourself when things go wrong. Things will always go wrong. Finally, don’t try to please people. You are not a people-pleaser. You can help people, but don’t please them into liking you. That is not real. It is fake love. You cannot please everyone. If you try, you are going to be exhausted.

Self-confidence, to keep growing it, keep doing the hard things that you have been avoiding. It will continue to grow.


If you want to be happy, start doing these 7 things

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Happiness is a choice. Make the choice to be happy. You can do it if you want to.

Don’t search for happiness. If you search for it, you will never find it. If you really want to be happy, do these seven things:

  1. Have a sense of humor. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Be happy. Make people laugh.
  2. Smile. When you leave your home in the morning, find ways to connect with people. Find a way to laugh. Don’t laugh at people. Laugh with people.
  3. Put smile on people’s face. People want to be happy. They want to smile. When they smile, please don’t frown your face. Smile back. They need your smile. I need your smile. The world need your smile. If we can just smile together, the world will be a better place for us all to enjoy!
  4. Be a light. Where there is light, there is no darkness. Be a blessing to people. When you bless people, you are blessing yourself, too. Help people succeed. Help your boss succeed. You will succeed.
  5. Give something special to people. Bless people with your love. Love people unconditionally. Give people praise. When you praise people, it means you love them, you respect them, you care about them. Please do it for yourself, for the world, and for me. Thank you.
  6. Forget yourself. I don’t know what you do. But whatever it is, have fun. Forget yourself in what you do. Don’t think too much about it. Don’t worry about mistakes. Don’t worry about perfection, because it does not exist. Forget yourself in what you do, and you will enjoy it. I know psychologists call it “Flow” I call it “Forget yourself in it”
  7. Don’t complain. I know it is hard to do sometimes. But if you can stay away from complaining, people will love you to death. People want to be around happy people, not complainers. If you complain, you are wasting your energy. No matter what, remain strong and be positive. Be happy.

Make the choice to be happy, and you will be happy.