Why Do We Forgive?

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“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”- Lewis B. Smedes

Forgiveness means freedom. When you forgive those who have hurt you, you are not letting them off the hook of pain, you are letting yourself off the hook of pain and resentment. When you forgive people, you are letting go of the past. You are now ready to move forward. It does not mean you are letting the other person go unpunished. It means that you are letting go of the pain inflicted upon you by that person.

So, why do we forgive?

In her book The How of Happiness: A New Approach To Getting The Life You Want, Sonja Lyubomirsky writes: “In the long run, the preoccupation, hostility, and resentment that we harbor serve only to hurt us, both emotionally and physically.” She adds: “Forgiveness can be regarded in the larger context of community and society; it can deepen our sense of shared humanity (that we are not alone in experiencing hurts) and strengthens our personal relationships and our wider connections with others.”

You forgive people to let yourself off the hook of pain and resentment, to let go of the past, to be yourself again, to enjoy your life, to live in the moment, to focus on what is relevant to you and others, to be happy, to improve your health and well-being, to let the other person go, to free yourself from prisoner, to connect with loving people, to build your character, and to love and be loved again.

Don’t allow resentment to poison your life. Choose happiness, love, humility, courage, gratitude, and forgiveness, and move on. Enjoy your life!

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8 Powerful Quotes On The Power Of Gratitude

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Gratitude is life. It is appreciation. It is focusing on what is working in your life. It is focusing on what you have, not on what you don’t have. If you want to enjoy your life, celebrate what you have, appreciate your life, and don’t take anything for granted.

Here are 8 powerful quotes on the power of gratitude:

Gratitude is a quality similar to electricity: it must be produced and discharged and used up in order to exist at all.”- William Faulkner, writer

Gratitude is not only the greatest virtues, but the parent of all others.”- Marcus Tullius Cicero

Be glad of life because it gives you the chance to love, to work, to play, and look up at the stars.”- Henry Van Dyke, author

Two kinds of gratitude: the sudden kind we feel for what we take; the larger kind we feel for what we give.“- Edwin Arlington Robinson, poet

Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”- Melody Beattie, author

Joy is the simplest form of gratitude.”- Karl Barth, theologian

“Each moment in times we have it all, even when we think we don’t.”- Melody Beattie, author

Live your life from your heart. Share from your heart. And your story will touch and heal people’s souls.”- Melody Beattie, author

3 Pat Summitt Quotes On How To Take Responsibility For Your Actions

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Success starts with taking responsibility for our actions. Successful people take responsibility for their actions. They don’t blame people. They blame themselves. So, if you want to change things that are not working for you, if you want to really fix the mess that you have created in your life, take responsibility. Hold yourself accountable for what you have done to yourself and the people around you.

There is power in taking responsibility for your actions. It gives you control over your life. But if you blame other people for what you have done to yourself, you are giving your power away. You are telling them ‘to control you.’ You are telling them to help you fix your problems. Look, if they manage to help you, who do you think will be the master? To be your own master, to control your life, take responsibility to fix your own mess. Don’t give the key to your life to anyone. No matter what, hold on to it.

Let us see what Pat Summitt says about the art of taking responsibility:

Accountability is the essential to personal growth, as well as team growth. How can you improve if you are never wrong? If you don’t admit a mistake and take responsibility for it, you are bound to make the same mistake again.”- Pat Summitt, coach

To grow in life, in your career, in your relationships with good people, you MUST learn how to say, “I am sorry.” This is the issue with lots of people, including myself. If you make a mistake, admit it. Don’t try to defend yourself. If you do, you are making the situation worse for yourself, because the person you are dealing with is not going to be happy with you. In order to avoid that, you must be very good at admitting a mistake. That is the only way out of trouble. It is not easy to do. Learn how to say ‘you are sorry.’ Practice it. Make it a habit, and you will overcome it.

“If you don’t want responsibility, don’t sit in the big chair. To be successful, you must accept full responsibility.”- Pat Summitt, coach

If you want to achieve success in life, you MUST learn how to take responsibility. No one will take it for you. Responsibility is holding yourself accountable for your failures and successes. It means you are responsibility for your life. It means you are answerable to yourself. It means you are the one who is in control of your life. If you want to do great things, learn how to take responsibility.

“Responsibility equals accountability equals ownership. And a sense of ownership is the most powerful weapon a team or organization can have.”- Pat Summitt, coach

When you take responsibility for your actions, it means you are the OWNER of your life. It means you are in control of your life. It means you are the one driving your life. It means you are ready to take the rough rough road to success. A sense of ownership is what you need to succeed in life. Whatever you do, own it.