6 Important Ways To Become The Person You Want To be

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One can’t be successful without first knowing who one is. Life will be much more easier for you if you know who you are, what you want, where you are going, and how to get there. You cannot achieve anything of value if you are not functioning at your highest level. You cannot achieve anything great if you are just passing time. If you pass time, time will pass you.

If you want to become the person that you have always wanted to be, you MUST master yourself. You must master your life. Here are some additional steps to take if you are to become who you want to be:

Be Yourself.

“Remember to always be yourself. Unless you suck.”– Joss Whedon, American producer

The first thing to do if you want to become who you want to be is to be yourself. Yourself, but nothing else. If you are not yourself, who are you? To be yourself, you MUST believe in yourself, trust yourself, love yourself, accept yourself, think for yourself, and celebrate yourself. Don’t compete with others; cooperate with others. If even you want to compete, let it be against yourself. Remember to always be yourself if you want to succeed.

Always prepare.

“Dig your well before you’re thirsty.“- Harvey Mackay

There is power in preparation. Always prepare yourself to succeed. Don’t underestimate anything. Always prepare yourself to seize anything opportunity. Don’t wait for people to tell you what to do. Do it before they even have the chance to tell you anything. The secret to success is preparation, preparation, preparation.

Don’t Resist Change.

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them- that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally toward in whatever way they like.”- Lao Tzu

Change is important to your growth and development. Don’t resist change. Allow things to flow. Allow things to happen the way it ought to be, not the way you want it to be. Change is a way to learn, to understand yourself, to know others, to think in different ways, to get out of comfort zone. If you don’t understand why change is been proposed, don’t resist it. Find a way to understand why the change is been proposed. Change is not funny, so is status quo. If you want your life to change, embrace change. Don’t resist it. In the words of JIm Rohn, “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”

Discipline Yourself.

“It is the small disciplines that lead to great accomplishments.”- Jim Rohn

There is no success without discipline. If you want to become who you want to be, you must discipline yourself. Do the things that are important to you. Don’t spend your time on things that are not getting you any closer to your dreams. For example, if you have an important project to work on, instead of watching the TV, spend time on your project. You can watch your TV later. In other words, according Stephen Covey, “Do the first thing first.” Focus on what will make you a better, smarter person.

Take Risks.

“If you have everything under control, you are not moving fast enough.”– Mario Andretti, Race Car Driver

If you have everything under control in your life, it means you are not moving fast enough. It means you are not taking calculated risks. It means you are playing it too safe. It is okay to play it safe, but know when to say, ‘enough is enough.’ If you want to take risks, make sure that the risks are worth taking. Make sure they are going to help you become a better person. Don’t take risks because people pressured you to do so. Take risks because you know is the right thing to do. Remember to look before you jump. Don’t jump before you look.

Failure is Inevitable.

“Failure is inevitable, make it a strength.”- J.K. Rowling

Failure is a part of life. It is a part of the game of life. If you want to move forward, if you want to learn, if you want to be a better person, you MUST embrace failure. It is okay to failure, but don’t make it a habit. If you fail at something, don’t beat yourself up. Listen to yourself. Learn from failure, and move on. Michael Jordan said, “I can accept failure, everyone fail at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” Failure is not a crime, not trying is. If you want to be better than you are today, don’t let the fear of failure stops you from pursuing your purpose in life.


How To Flourish In The Face Of Obstacles

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“Most of our obstacles will melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them.”- Orison Swett Marden

There is no life without obstacles. No one has succeeded without facing obstacles. Sometimes what we call obstacles are not really obstacles, they are transit zones for you to think, plan, and move on. What happens to us is not an obstacle until we call it an obstacle.

We cannot live life without obstacles. We cannot live life without temporary defeats. We cannot live life without having to stop, reflect, and think. If you want to be better than others, you must expect obstacles in your life. They are part of who we are. They are here to stay. They are not going anywhere.

Successful people expect obstacles; unsuccessful people avoid obstacles.

Obstacles are opportunities in disguise. Obstacles are here to strengthen you; they are not here to break you. When you face obstacles, don’t avoid them. Learn from them. Try to understand why you are facing them. They will prepare you for tougher times. Without obstacles, we cannot grow. We must cross the bridge between obstacles and success. If you want to be successful, you must face obstacles. In other words, you must do what is required of you before you can make it in life. You must do your homework. You must meet the right people. You must live in the right place. You must study the right courses. You must read the right books. You must be in a positive state of mind.

Most successful people overcame multiple obstacles before they succeeded. If they can do it, you can do it, too. Success is the result of multiple failures. Success is the result of overcoming multiple obstacles.

So, how do we face obstacles when they come to light?

Here are some strategies to overcome obstacles:

Expect it.

When you come to term that life is not without difficulties, it is easier for you handle anything that stays in your way. When you don’t expect obstacles, it becomes very difficult for you to adjust and handle the situation when you face them. When you are planning to do something new, always prepare for the unknown. The unknown, in this case, is the obstacle.

Face it.

When things are not happening the way we wanted them to be- in your life, in your projects, do not quit, do not abandon them. Look for other ways to get them done. Once you quit, you will quit again whenever things get tougher.

Be optimistic.

When things are not going your way, it is not the time to start coming up with all the reasons they won’t work. It is the time to remain positive about the situation. It is the time to remain hopeful and be optimistic.

Believe in yourself.

Success starts with self-belief. If you believe in yourself, there is nothing you cannot accomplish. If you don’t believe in yourself, even when you have all the necessary materials, you will still find it difficult to succeed.

Know what you want.

This is the first step to success. Knowing what you want to achieve in life, knowing where you are going in life, makes everything you encounter on the way easier to manage. It motivates you to stay in the game of life. It gives you the energy you need to stay and finish what you have started.

Imagine the things you are fighting for.

Imagination will help you stay in the game of life, no matter how difficult the situation might be. Try to imagine how successful you will be once you have finished your project. On the contrary, imagination will help you to see what will happen if you quit the game of life. Imagining how your life will be after you conquer what you are going through will be a source of power for you.

Handle fear in productive ways.

When you are starting a new journey, the first thing that comes to mind is fear. Fear cripples people. Fear takes people’s dreams away. To advance in the face of obstacles, you must handle fear in a productive way or ways, because with fear comes doubts and billions of reasons why your projects won’t work. Don’t let fear stop you from pushing forward. Don’t let fear stop you from competing. You are created to thrive, not to survive. You are created to prosper, not to survive.

Discipline yourself.

According to experts, self-discipline is doing the thing or things you don’t want to do. To be successful, you must discipline yourself. You must give it all you have, even when you don’t want to do it. You must discipline yourself against distractions. You must pay no attention to distractions. You must discipline yourself to remain laser focused on your goals. Without discipline, all other things will fall apart.

Finally, you can flourish in the face of obstacles if you make things happen rather than letting them happen to you. Create the life that you want and go get it. “Yes, you can.”- Obama