6 Important Ways To Become The Person You Want To be

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One can’t be successful without first knowing who one is. Life will be much more easier for you if you know who you are, what you want, where you are going, and how to get there. You cannot achieve anything of value if you are not functioning at your highest level. You cannot achieve anything great if you are just passing time. If you pass time, time will pass you.

If you want to become the person that you have always wanted to be, you MUST master yourself. You must master your life. Here are some additional steps to take if you are to become who you want to be:

Be Yourself.

“Remember to always be yourself. Unless you suck.”– Joss Whedon, American producer

The first thing to do if you want to become who you want to be is to be yourself. Yourself, but nothing else. If you are not yourself, who are you? To be yourself, you MUST believe in yourself, trust yourself, love yourself, accept yourself, think for yourself, and celebrate yourself. Don’t compete with others; cooperate with others. If even you want to compete, let it be against yourself. Remember to always be yourself if you want to succeed.

Always prepare.

“Dig your well before you’re thirsty.“- Harvey Mackay

There is power in preparation. Always prepare yourself to succeed. Don’t underestimate anything. Always prepare yourself to seize anything opportunity. Don’t wait for people to tell you what to do. Do it before they even have the chance to tell you anything. The secret to success is preparation, preparation, preparation.

Don’t Resist Change.

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them- that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally toward in whatever way they like.”- Lao Tzu

Change is important to your growth and development. Don’t resist change. Allow things to flow. Allow things to happen the way it ought to be, not the way you want it to be. Change is a way to learn, to understand yourself, to know others, to think in different ways, to get out of comfort zone. If you don’t understand why change is been proposed, don’t resist it. Find a way to understand why the change is been proposed. Change is not funny, so is status quo. If you want your life to change, embrace change. Don’t resist it. In the words of JIm Rohn, “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”

Discipline Yourself.

“It is the small disciplines that lead to great accomplishments.”- Jim Rohn

There is no success without discipline. If you want to become who you want to be, you must discipline yourself. Do the things that are important to you. Don’t spend your time on things that are not getting you any closer to your dreams. For example, if you have an important project to work on, instead of watching the TV, spend time on your project. You can watch your TV later. In other words, according Stephen Covey, “Do the first thing first.” Focus on what will make you a better, smarter person.

Take Risks.

“If you have everything under control, you are not moving fast enough.”– Mario Andretti, Race Car Driver

If you have everything under control in your life, it means you are not moving fast enough. It means you are not taking calculated risks. It means you are playing it too safe. It is okay to play it safe, but know when to say, ‘enough is enough.’ If you want to take risks, make sure that the risks are worth taking. Make sure they are going to help you become a better person. Don’t take risks because people pressured you to do so. Take risks because you know is the right thing to do. Remember to look before you jump. Don’t jump before you look.

Failure is Inevitable.

“Failure is inevitable, make it a strength.”- J.K. Rowling

Failure is a part of life. It is a part of the game of life. If you want to move forward, if you want to learn, if you want to be a better person, you MUST embrace failure. It is okay to failure, but don’t make it a habit. If you fail at something, don’t beat yourself up. Listen to yourself. Learn from failure, and move on. Michael Jordan said, “I can accept failure, everyone fail at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” Failure is not a crime, not trying is. If you want to be better than you are today, don’t let the fear of failure stops you from pursuing your purpose in life.

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The Real Failure

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There is no failure in life. It depends on how you look at what happened to you. Instead of looking at what happened to you as a problem, instead of looking at the mistakes you have made, instead of looking at the bad decisions you have made as mistakes, look at them as learning opportunity.

Failure is a great teacher.”

Failure is a great teacher. You learn a lot from failure than you learn from success. The real failure is when you did not learn anything from what happened to you. It is real failure when you focus on the negative things in your life instead of focusing on the positive things. It is real failure when you quit before you make it. It is real failure when you quit before you start, when you didn’t try at all, when you try and quit the next day, when you fall and never rise up, and when you refused to listen to people who can change your life.

Getting There Vs. Staying There

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It is not who gets there first. It is who stays there. It is easier to get to where you want to be in life than to remain there. Success is fluid. Success is dynamic. Success is in motion. Success is not static. You have to keep chasing it. It is a process, not a destination.

The most successful people are scared of one thing: “They don’t want to be poor again.”

That is why they do everything in their power to maintain their wealth. You can do the same, too.

It is easier to get there than to stay there. If you want to stay successful, you must change your strategy. You must change your mindset. If you want to get different results, stop doing the same old things that got you to where you are. Albert Einstein famously said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Lots of people fail to stay where they are because they lost focus. They forget how they got to where they are. They forget who they are, what they care about, and what is important to them. Instead of focusing on personal and professional development, they got carried away by what other people are doing. What they are doing is no longer interesting to them. They think their friends are doing better than they are. They think their friends are ahead of them.

I have good news for you: it does not matter who got there first. What really matters is how you got there. Life is all about getting there versus staying there. It depends on you.