How To Build Positive Relationships At Work

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“No man is an Island; entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent.”- John Donne, poet

No man is an Island, according to John Donne. You are part of a team. You are not alone. You can’t succeed on your own; you need people to help you succeed. In order to succeed with people, and to be part of a happy team, you need to develop strong people management skills. Below are some tips that will help you do just that:

Be a happy person. If you want to attract people into your world, you need to be a happy person. Don’t fake it. People want to be around people they like. They want to work with coworkers who are warm, happy, respectful, and enthusiastic. No body want to be around a pessimist. If you want people to be around you, be an optimist.

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is within yourself, in your way of thinking.”- Marcus Aurelius

“Happiness can exist only in acceptance.”- George Orwell

Be authentic. People trust authentic people. When people trust you, building a positive relationship will be easier for you. But if they don’t trust you, nothing you can do to bring them into your world. Trust is everything. A relationship without trust is a temporary relationship. Everything will collapse. Again, trust is everything. Be real!

“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.”- Thomas Jefferson

Preparation, preparation, preparation. When you are ready, people are ready. People like to work with people or coworkers who are ALWAYS prepared before coming to work. You cannot be a trusted team member when you lack the discipline to prepare before a meeting. People will not depend on you. Preparation is the key to success in life. Without preparation, you are setting yourself up for failure.

“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”- Benjamin Franklin

“I will prepare and some day my chance will come.”- Abraham Lincoln

Be a great listener. To be a great listener, you have to listen with a clear mind. Show that you are interested in what your colleagues are saying. Give them time to finish before you jump into the conversation. Listen to people to learn, not to judge. Great leaders are great listeners. They listen to learn from their employees, customers, and managers, not to judge them. If you want to enjoy your work, be a great listener.

“Everything has been said before, but since nobody listens we have to keep going back and beginning all over again.”- Andre Gide, author


Workplace Relationships

The relationships you have with your co-workers are so important to you, and the organization. They determine your happiness at work. If the relationships you have with your co-workers and your managers are not healthy, you are not going to be happy at work. You only go to work because you need the money to pay your bills.

You can be happy at work if you take the time to develop SOME great relationships with your co-workers. But remember, you cannot make everybody happy, you can make some of them, who are positively ready to be happy at work, happy. On the other hand, you don’t expect everyone to be happy with you at work. It is not going to happen. Some people will be for you, others will be against you. It is life, you cannot change it.

If you can maintain a healthy and a constructive working relationships with your co-workers, you will really enjoy your work. And your organization will enjoy your work, because you are giving the organization your best.

How to build positive relationships at work?

To build great relationships with the people you work with, here are some suggestions for you:

Show empathy: Try to understanding where they are coming from, put yourself in their situations, and understand them as  person, not just co-workers.

Show gratitude: Always say “thank you” whenever your co-workers help you achieve something.

Show respect: Respect your co-workers, and they will respect you. It is a two-way street.

Be Friendly: People want to work with colleagues that are friendly, not complainers. Be friendly.

Don’t Gossip: When your co-workers find out that you gossip a lot, they will not trust you anymore. They will hold back important information about the organization.

Say Positive Things About Your Colleagues: Never say anything negative about your co-workers. If you don’t have anything to say, keep your mouth shut!

Be an Ethical Worker: Always do the right things.

Don’t forget to work on your social and emotional intelligence.

  • Social Intelligence: how you behave and your understanding of other people in a social settings.
  • Emotional Intelligence: The Understanding of your behavior and other people’s behavior, and how to manage relationships.

Let’s look at some causes of negative relationships at work:

Lack of Respect: If you don’t respect your co-workers, they will not respect you. As I said earlier, it is a two-way street.

They feel they are not part of the organization: When people feel excluded at work, they will not trust anyone. They will come for the money, not the job. They will start to behave in ways that the organization is not comfortable with.

They feel neglected by management: If you don’t show employees that they are important to you, they will show you that your organization is not important to them.

Lack of Trust: When employees don’t trust each other, they will not be too friendly. They will not like to open up. They will prefer to work in silo (alone with nobody).

Zero Empathy: You will here comments like: “I don’t care what is happening to him or her.” This kind of a statement is what you hear in an organization where there is zero empathy.

Lack of Communication: Where there is no trust, there is going to be poor communication. An organization where communication is not a priority, nothing really gets done.

If you are currently working in an organization where the above things happen everyday, it is time for you to start looking for another job. Don’t leave before you find another job. Quit with dignity and respect.