7 Ways To Protect Yourself From Toxic People

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Why are people toxic? Are they really toxic? What can we do about it?

A toxic person is someone with a poisonous behavior. The way a toxic person behaves is not compatible with others. According to Dr Travis, Toxic people defy logic. Some are blissfully unaware of the negative impact that they have on those around them and others seem to derive satisfaction from creating chaos and pushing other people’s buttons.”

In addition to Dr Travis’s definition of toxic people, Mark Twain said, “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you too, can become great.” Hans F. Hansan adds: People inspire or they drain you – pick them wisely.”

When you find out that your friend is acting out, don’t jump to conclusion. Why? Because they are human beings with feelings. They may be going through something personal and they don’t want to tell anyone. As a result, they will always be aggressive. I am not defending their terrible behavior. I am just saying that it is important to understand the reason behind something before we become the judge. We are good at judging others, because we are so perfect. No, you are not! Your behavior suck, too!

“Toxic people drive you crazy because their behaviour is so irrational. Make no mistake about it; their behaviour truly goes against reason, why do you allow yourself to respond to them emotionally and sucked into the mix?”- Dr. Travis Bradberry, in Leaderonomics.com

If you want to enjoy your life, your work, here are some strategies to cope with toxic people:

Control your mind. When you work or live with a toxic person (a person with a terrible behavior), protect your mind from negative emotions. This is important because a negative person does not spread positive news, they spread only negative news.

Connect with people who encourage you to be yourself. We all need good people in our lives. The people that accept us for who we are, not who we pretend to be. People that will encourage us to do our best, to be our best.

Connect with people who spread positive news. The food for your soul is positive thoughts, not negative thoughts. You need positive thoughts to help you go through challenging times. No matter what, no matter where you are, no matter what you are doing, always try to be a positive person. I know it is hard to do, but it is doable.

Understand their reasons. This is important because if you know what is happening to your coworker, you won’t take anything personal. It is sometimes not about you, but about them. Learn to understand the “why” before you take them to court.

Know yourself. If you know yourself, if you know your values, you will know how to respond. Lao Tzu said, Respond intelligently even to unintelligent treatment.”

Stay on your purpose. If you are busy doing or pursuing your purpose in life, you have no time to engage yourself with small-minded people. According to the author of this quote,It’s so nice when toxic people stop talking to you. It’s like the trash took itself out.”

Maintain a positive mindset. We can’t avoid working with negative people. If you do work with one or two, always be positive. Don’t play their games. Don’t reduce yourself to their level. That is what they want you to do. Don’t do it!

Putting it Together:

People with negative attitudes are everywhere. How you deal with them will make the difference. Be positive.

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How To Build Positive Relationships At Work

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“No man is an Island; entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent.”- John Donne, poet

No man is an Island, according to John Donne. You are part of a team. You are not alone. You can’t succeed on your own; you need people to help you succeed. In order to succeed with people, and to be part of a happy team, you need to develop strong people management skills. Below are some tips that will help you do just that:

Be a happy person. If you want to attract people into your world, you need to be a happy person. Don’t fake it. People want to be around people they like. They want to work with coworkers who are warm, happy, respectful, and enthusiastic. No body want to be around a pessimist. If you want people to be around you, be an optimist.

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is within yourself, in your way of thinking.”- Marcus Aurelius

“Happiness can exist only in acceptance.”- George Orwell

Be authentic. People trust authentic people. When people trust you, building a positive relationship will be easier for you. But if they don’t trust you, nothing you can do to bring them into your world. Trust is everything. A relationship without trust is a temporary relationship. Everything will collapse. Again, trust is everything. Be real!

“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.”- Thomas Jefferson

Preparation, preparation, preparation. When you are ready, people are ready. People like to work with people or coworkers who are ALWAYS prepared before coming to work. You cannot be a trusted team member when you lack the discipline to prepare before a meeting. People will not depend on you. Preparation is the key to success in life. Without preparation, you are setting yourself up for failure.

“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”- Benjamin Franklin

“I will prepare and some day my chance will come.”- Abraham Lincoln

Be a great listener. To be a great listener, you have to listen with a clear mind. Show that you are interested in what your colleagues are saying. Give them time to finish before you jump into the conversation. Listen to people to learn, not to judge. Great leaders are great listeners. They listen to learn from their employees, customers, and managers, not to judge them. If you want to enjoy your work, be a great listener.

“Everything has been said before, but since nobody listens we have to keep going back and beginning all over again.”- Andre Gide, author

Treat People With Respect.

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Never do to others what you would not like them to do to you.- Confucius

Respect goes both ways. If you respect people, people will respect you back. It is like paying your debt. When banks borrow you money, you pay them back. If not, you have lost the respect they have for you. If you borrow money from the bank, and you pay them back, you have earned their respect.

For business owners, managers, it is important for you guys to love and respect your people. They are all you have. Without great workers, you have no business. When you are nice to them, they will be nice to you, they will be nice to your customers.

Treat people with respect; they will treat you with respect.

It Is Never Too Late

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Whatever it is that you are planning to do, go for it. It is never too late. It is never too late to be what you might have been yesterday. One reason why people don’t want to do any thing new is: the fear of failure. “One of the reasons mature people stop learning is that they become less and less willing to risk failure.”— John W. Gardner

If you don’t try, you can’t succeed. If you try hard, you will succeed. Don’t waste your time. Go for whatever it is that you want to do. If you don’t do it today, you will regret not doing it tomorrow. “Only the hand that erases can write the true thing.”—Meister Eckhart, philosopher

“Wherever I am, or whatever I am doing, some kind of excellence is within my reach.” — John W. Gardner. It is never too late. Don’t let people that don’t have a life plan talk you out of your dream. Pursue your dreams with all your energy, you will succeed.

It is never too late to be what you might have been.”— George Eliot