The best way to get your life back is to take responsibility for your life. Accepting your responsibility is telling people something like, “I made a mistake. It is mine, not yours.” When you say something like that, you have reconnected with your real self. You have just earned a ticket to leadership.
“Accepting your responsibility is telling people something like, ‘I made a mistake. It is mine, not yours.'”
In life, in leadership, taking responsibility is all that you need to earn the support of your people. If you take responsibility for your actions (good and bad), if you take responsibility for your failures, if you take responsibility for your mistakes, you will gain your power back. But if you fail to take responsibility for your actions, for your failures, for your mistakes, for where you are in your life, you have given your power away.
“Taking responsibility for your life is the only way to gain your life back.”
As a leader, you are not demonstrating to your people that you are ready to be a leader. You are telling them, “If anything happens here, you are on your own.” This is dangerous.
People like to work with someone they can trust, someone they can rely on, someone who will protect them if anything goes wrong, someone who is courageous enough to take the heat in the kitchen. Are you courageous enough to take the heat?
“The only way forward is through responsibility.”
If you don’t take responsibility for anything, you can’t grow. You will find it difficult to learn anything of value. And people will not fight for you, because they know that you are not going to fight for them. When things are going well, celebrate it. When things are not going well, own it. Don’t criticize anyone. Own it. Don’t blame anyone, but yourself. When things are not going well in your company, if you are the leader, don’t hide it. If it is not sensitive, put everything on the table. Invite others to discuss what to do next. Don’t do it alone. Let it be a shared responsibility. Remember: “You are responsible for your life.” Don’t give it away. Own it.