2 Things To Conquer

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You have two things to conquer: 1) the world. 2) Yourself.

To conquer the world, you must first conquer yourself. If you can successfully conquer yourself, you have won the biggest battle of all. Buddha said, “It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you.” Then you can conquer the world. You can conquer the world, you understand the world only if you conquer yourself, only if you understand yourself. If you know who you are, you can know others. If you don’t know who you are, you cannot know other people. Know yourself to know others. Conquer yourself to conquer the world.

You can.

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Average Work

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An average work is average work, half work, incomplete work, boring work, or a dead work. You can call it whatever you like. But one thing is clear: it is an average work.

An average work is fruitless. Your work is average when you complain always about your job. Your work is an average job when you can’t wait to go home. Your work is an average work when you hate what you do. You are doing an average work when you refuse to even show up at work. Lots of people are just getting by. That is another name for an average work. An average work lacks meaning and purpose. It is meaningless. People are doing it for survival- just to pay their bills. If you are in such a job right now, it is time to start planning what to do next. If you remain there, you will not be more than an average worker. Your goal in life is to be a great worker, not an average worker. It is up to you.

“The only way to do great work is to love what you do.”- Steve Jobs

If you hate what you do, you will get average results. If you love what you do, you will get satisfying results, because you love it and you have invested the right resources into it. There is no free ride to success. If you want to be successful, you must do the work. You must pay your OWN price to be successful. The price to pay for success is excellent work, not average work.

“If you don’t love it, you are going to fail.”- Steve Jobs

To get the best out of life, you must prepare your mind to do the complete work. You cannot be successful without doing the full work. If you have been doing an average work, just getting by, it is time for you to change your mindset. It is time to start doing the right thing, so that you can get the right and the best results.

What Are You Hearing?

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What are people telling you to do? Who are your advisers? Are they making sense? If not, why are they still advising you?

In order to make it in life, you need good advice from other people- your friends, teachers, relatives, or your spouse. But what are they telling you? Is what they are telling you helping or hurting you?

If you want to grow, to succeed, you need to listen to great people, you need to learn from great people, especially if they have done what you are about to get into. Their experiences will lead you a long way. Great people will not only talk to you on how to succeed, they will tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. They know that what you need to hear is what you need to succeed, to grow, to learn, and to become a better person. They will tell you what you need to hear because they know you need good information to make the right decisions, to keep you in check when it comes to making hard calls, going through difficult times, or doing difficult things.

You need great people in your life, not fake people. Great people are more than your mentors, they are your protectors. They don’t hide behind anything. They will tell you what they see in you that are not promising. They will point out your strengths and weaknesses, and they will tell you honestly while they are your strengths or why they are your weaknesses. And they will tell you how you can make them better.

“Great people are more than your mentors, they are your protectors.”

Fake people, fake friends, fake relatives will tell you everything that you want to hear. They are the first to tell you that everything is fine, no mistakes. You are perfect! They are the first to criticize you behind your back. If you want to grow, you don’t need these people in your life. They are terrible. They will destroy your dreams by not telling you what they saw. They will keep it to themselves because they want you to fail. You don’t need these kinds of people. They are fake people.

Be around people who are honest, not fakers. Be around people who honestly want you to grow, who celebrate you, who see potential in you, and who push you to be your best self. If you find one or two, you will enjoy your journey to success. If you can’t find great people to be with, don’t waste your time looking for one. You can become one to someone, and that person, if you are lucky, will be the encourager you have been waiting for. If you want to be something special, you first be that thing to someone. You will get it in return.

What you need to hear is not always fun to hear. It is uncomfortable. It is painful when something terrible about you is out in the open. But if you want to grow, you must develop the courage to listen to what you need to hear.

Sometimes people want to tell us what we actually need to hear, but we don’t want to hear it. We don’t like what it will bring out about us- weaknesses, cover-ups, insecurity, or low self-esteem. If you really want to grow, if you really want to be successful, find a way to ask for what you need to hear. If not, you are going to be your own mentor. If you have the courage to ask for it, to listen to it, to take and use it, you will experience a great change in your life.

People tell you what you want to hear because they want to keep the relationship going. If you want people to tell you what you really need to hear, make them comfortable to do it. Signal to them that you are ready to receive the feedback you are about to get. Signal to them that you are ready to grow, and that you will use it to improve your life. When people are comfortable with you, they will reveal a lot to you. It is your responsibility to create the room for the conversation to happen. People want to talk to us, but they don’t know how to do it. Help them, and they will help you in return.

Getting There Vs. Staying There

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It is not who gets there first. It is who stays there. It is easier to get to where you want to be in life than to remain there. Success is fluid. Success is dynamic. Success is in motion. Success is not static. You have to keep chasing it. It is a process, not a destination.

The most successful people are scared of one thing: “They don’t want to be poor again.”

That is why they do everything in their power to maintain their wealth. You can do the same, too.

It is easier to get there than to stay there. If you want to stay successful, you must change your strategy. You must change your mindset. If you want to get different results, stop doing the same old things that got you to where you are. Albert Einstein famously said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Lots of people fail to stay where they are because they lost focus. They forget how they got to where they are. They forget who they are, what they care about, and what is important to them. Instead of focusing on personal and professional development, they got carried away by what other people are doing. What they are doing is no longer interesting to them. They think their friends are doing better than they are. They think their friends are ahead of them.

I have good news for you: it does not matter who got there first. What really matters is how you got there. Life is all about getting there versus staying there. It depends on you.