The Fear Of Criticism And What To Do About It

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The fear of criticism is one of the major barriers to success.

We don’t like to be criticized. But is it perfectly okay to be criticized. It is who we are. It is perfectly okay for people to criticize you. If you hear people criticizing or bad-mouthing you, if you hear people criticizing you- your work, your family, your skills, your abilities, you should know that you are doing something relevant. Not something. A lot of things right.

People criticize you because they don’t know you. They don’t know who you are, what you value, and where you are going.

You know yourself better than your critics. Don’t focus on what they are saying or not saying about you. They are meaningless.

Remember, whether you are doing everything right or everything wrong, their are people out there that will never be happy with what you are doing. So, why listen?

Let them criticize you all they like. What is relevant is how you react to what they say about you. Your reaction is what counts. Their words belong to them, not to you.

Instead of beating yourself up like an idiot, take it as a learning opportunity. Embrace it. Randy Pausch said, “Your critics are the ones telling you they still love you and care. Worry when you do something badly and nobody bothers to tell you.” Source: your-critics-are-the-ones-telling-you-they-still-love

Remember, when we were growing up (we are still growing anyway), we were severely criticized by our loved ones- parent, brothers, sisters, by our friends, by our teachers, or by our good and bad neighbors. Some of their criticism were positive; others not so much. But we survived them.

So, what do we do about it?

One way to handle criticism is to change how you think about it. Ignore it. Focus on what is relevant. Focus on your success, not on pleasing anyone.

Take criticism as a learning opportunity, and you will actually learn something about yourself.

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