Want To Achieve Incredible Success? Answer These Three Critical Questions.

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To achieve success in life, you must first “be true to yourself.” You do that by working on these three important questions:

Ask yourself:

Who am I?

Where am I going?

Why am I going there?

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The Power Of Forgiveness, According To Lewis B. Smedes

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Sometimes it is hard to even think of forgiving the person who has wronged us. It is a hard and painful decision to make. We don’t even want to think about the person who has wronged us. But if we don’t forgive the person who has wronged us, who is going to do it for us?

Nobody, but you.

It is hard to say, “I forgive you.” Yes, it hard for some people to forgive the person who has wronged them. But it pays to forgive. When you forgive, you have set yourself from prison.

When you forgive the person who has wronged you, according to Philip Yancy, in his book What’s So Amazing About Grace, he talked about the benefits of forgiveness. They are:

“First, forgiveness alone can halt the cycle of blame and pain, breaking the chain of ungrace. The second great power of forgiveness is that it can loosen the stranglehold of guilt in the perpetrator.”

In the same book, Lewis Smedes points out, “The first and often the only person to be healed by forgiveness is the person who does the forgiveness…. When we genuinely forgive, we set a prisoner free and then discover that the prisoner we set free was us.”

Lewis Smedes details this process of “spiritual surgery”: When you forgive someone, you slice away the wrong from the person who did it. You disengage that person from his hurtful act. You recreate him. At one moment you identify him ineradicably as the person who did you wrong. The next moment you change that identity. He is remade in your memory. You think of him now not as the person who hurt you, but a person who needs you. You feel him now not as the person who alienated you, but as the person who belongs to you. Once you branded him as a person powerful in evil, but now you see him as a person weak in his needs. You recreated your past by recreating the person whose wrong made your past painful.”

In 52 Simple Ways To Encourage Others, C. E. Collins says, “Our forgiving the person who has wrong us accomplishes two things simultaneously. It removes us from standing in the way of the person’s confrontation of himself and his actions. We are no longer the ‘excuse’ for the deed or the one against whom an act can be justified. In confronting himself and his evil acts, the person is in the right position for self-judgement and growth. Forgiving others frees us from the negative impact of hatred on our souls, emotions, and bodies. All in all, forgiveness can prompt a genuine healing process at many levels.”

Finally, It is painful to forgive the person who has wronged us. But when we do, we live and do better- physically, spiritually, and emotionally.

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The Fear Of Poverty: How To Make It Work For You, Not Against You.

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Fear is nothing but a state of mind. It is a picture you have in your mind.

The fear of poverty is a negative picture you have in your mind. People pray to be successful, but they still think small. If you want to be great, you must first think in a great way. You must develop a state of mind that pictures what you want to achieve.

You are the one who created a picture of a poor person in your mind. You are the ONLY one who can get it out of your mind. Do it before it is too late for you. You can change the situation by focusing on what is possible, not what is not possible. Do not wander in self-pity. See yourself as a rich person, and design a strategy to make it happen.

People focus on the fear of poverty because they don’t want to be poor. They are afraid not to be poor. They don’t want to be poor, especially if they were once wealthy.

How to make the fear of poverty work for you, not against you.

The first thing you should do is to take action. Take action. Don’t stand and watch people getting things done. You join them and be part of the doers, not the watchers. If you really want to conquer poverty, you must take action. Action is the ONLY thing that can conquer fear. So, my friends, take action. Stop complaining. Don’t be a complainer anymore. Be a doer. It takes time. Be patient.

Understand your fear. Understanding fear of poverty will give you the energy you need to get things done. Understanding fear means you now know that fear is a part of who we are. You now know what to do when you experience it.

Reject poverty. You can reject poverty by taking action. You can dream all you like, you can talk all you like, you can read all you like, without action, they are useless. Napoleon Hill once said, “To be poor and not to like being poor is a good step toward becoming rich.”

Use the fear of poverty as a starting point to success. Fear is a great motivator, if you know how to put it to work. It is a motivator. It will push you closer to your dreams. Remember what we are talking about here: the fear of poverty. If you don’t want to be poor, the fear of poverty will force you to work hard. See it as an opportunity to move forward, not as a barrier standing in your way.

Take responsibility. Manage your fear by taking responsibility to conquer it. Do not wait for someone from somewhere to come and fix your life for you. You are the only one who can do just that. If you blame people for what you fear, what you fear will dominate you. Take responsibility for all your actions, including your fears.

Finally, make your fear work for you, not against you. Remember, the opposite of fear is not courage, it is faith. You can make your fear work for you by taking responsibility, by using fear as a starting to success, by understanding fear, by rejecting fear, and by taking action.

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8 Ways To Beat Fear

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What is fear?

“Fear is pain arising from the anticipation of evil.”- Aristotle

Fear is not always a bad thing. But when it becomes too much, it becomes a problem.

People fear lots of things, if not everything. They fear: success, criticism, public embarrassment, failure, being alone or loneliness, disappointment, death, poverty, etc.

It does not matter what you fear, but one thing is clear: “Fear is a state of mind.” It is in your mind. You created it. You created it by focusing on what is not possible, by focusing on negative things. It is only YOU who can change it.

Fear and what it does to you.

  1. You don’t think for yourself anymore. You allow people to do the thinking for you, instead of doing it yourself. When you do that, you are denying yourself of the opportunity to learn more about fear, to build self-confidence. As a strategy to confront what you fear, try as much as possible to do the thinking yourself. Remember, what you fear is in your mind. You cannot face fear without first changing your state of mind.
  2. You can’t control yourself anymore. When you allow people to do the thinking for you, they are controlling you. They are making your critical decisions for you. As a result, you have given the key to heart to them. Who controls your mind controls you. Don’t allow people to control your mind. It is your precious gift, take good care of it.
  3. You lack self-reliance. You lack self-reliance because you depend on people’s decisions to live your life. Take it back!
  4. You concentrate on failure instead of success. When you focus on fear, when you focus on what is not possible, instead of what is possible, you are focusing on negative things. To correct this, no matter where you are and what you are doing, always have a positive picture in your mind.
  5. You doubt yourself. Self-doubt comes from not believing in yourself that you can get anything done. If you doubt yourself, you will find it hard to do anything of importance. Before you engage in anything, make sure you are in a positive state of mind.
  6. Your self-confidence suffers. When you are courageous, when you are bold, when you are fearless, your self-confidence goes up. On the contrary, when you doubt yourself, when you dominate your mind with fear, your self-confidence suffers. As a result, you can’t get anything done.
  7. You are unsteady when you fear a lot. Fear makes people unsteady. They can’t stick to one thing. In other words, they suffer from ‘indecision syndrome.’
  8. Fear leads to unhappiness. When you focus squarely on what is not possible instead of what is possible, it affects your happiness. Because fear prevents you from doing the things that are relevant to your health and well-being.

How To Master Fear.

Be courageous.

In order to conquer your fear, you must be bold, but not arrogant. You must be courageous. You must be fearless. If you face your fear, your fear will disappear.

“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.”- Mark Twain

Take responsibility

The first step to changing your life is to take responsibility, not blaming others. Other people are not responsible for your fear or fears. You created the picture of fear in your mind; it is YOU who can change it.

“When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot.”- The Dalai Lama

Clear your mind of negative thoughts.

Where there is fear, success has no chance. If you want success to come to you, you must first clear your mind of negative thoughts that you have allowed into your mind.

“Whenever there is fear, you will get wrong figures.”- W. Edwards Deming, American engineer

Analyze yourself.

Ask yourself: “Why am I scared of this thing?” Be honest with yourself. If you cannot ask the question yourself, ask someone you trust to do it for you.

Don’t deny your feelings. Try to analyze it, understand it, and plan how to embrace it- to make it work for you.

“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.”- Sigmund Freud

Focus on strengths.

If you know what you are good at, you will not be paralyzed by fear. Before you start a new thing, assess it to know what you need to get it done.

“What you focus on expands.”- Jim Rohn

Trust yourself

You do well at something when you believe in yourself. If you don’t believe that you can get something done, you will find it difficult to get great results. To achieve success, start by believing in yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one will believe in you.

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”- Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

Have a clear purpose.

Your life’s purpose will help you conquer your fear, if it is stronger than what you fear. If your desire to succeed is stronger than your fear, you will defeat fear.

“The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things.”- Rainer Maria Rilke, poet

Embrace your fear

Embrace your fear. Analyze your fear. Understand your fear. Face what you fear, and your fear will give way.

“It’s the perpetual dread of fear, the fear of fear, that shapes the face of a brave man.”- Georges Bernanos, author

Face what you fear, and your fear will retire.

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