The Practice of Forgiveness.
“The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.”- Marianne Williamson, American Spiritual Teacher
We have all been hurt at some point in our lives. Some of us were able to let go of the suffering, while others were unable to let go of the suffering. When someone hurts us, for any reason, our normal reaction is to fight back. The question is, when we fight back, are we causing more damage to our lives, or are we repairing the damage that has already been inflicted upon us?
I know it hurts to even think about it. If you want to be free from suffering, if you want to enjoy your life and be a happy person, you must forgive the person who has wronged you. When you forgive, you have healed an entire family. Similarly, when you forgive them, you have healed yourself. You have removed dirty thoughts from your mind. You have made someone happy. It creates new opportunities for you to move forward. You are now free to form new relationships.
If it is too hard for you to forgive the person, start slowly. Start by thinking about the benefits of letting this person free. Think about the benefits of letting yourself be free from the self-inflicted suffering. Picture yourself doing the right things to forgive this person. Pay a surprise visit to this person, and make her understand how you feel about the situation. If it is still hard for you to do, it is time to reach out to your therapist for counselling.
Remember, the best thing you can do to the healing of yourself is to forgive someone. Once you are able to forgive and let go, the world will be a better place for us all to enjoy.
The Willingness to Forgive
“The first step in forgiveness is the willingness to forgive.”- Marianne Williamson, American spiritual teacher
The willingness to let go of the suffering, the willingness to let go of the pain is the first step in trying to forgive people that have done terrible things to you. This is the first crucial step. At this point, you are ready to let go of the pain. You don’t want to deal with it anymore. You have had enough.
The willingness to let go begins by allowing that person into your life again. You have studied and understood the situation the other person is in. You have realized that the other person is suffering, too. You have realized that the other person is in pain, too. You have come to the conclusion that you need to let go, so that you can be a free person.
Once you have decided to forgive them, go ahead and do it. If done well, both sides will be free.
Forgiveness is better
“There is no revenge as complete as forgiveness.”- Josh Billing, American humorist
When you try to get revenge against the person that hurts you, you are not easing the situation. All you are doing is causing more pain and suffering to you and the other person. The pain and suffering will continue to grow. The anger and resentment will continue to pile up. Your health and well-being will continue to suffer. This is not the right road to ride on. When you fight back, your pain increases. But when you forgive, you let go of the pain and suffering.
Revenge is incomplete. Forgiveness is better. Revenge is taking the low road, and forgiveness is taking the high road. Which road do you want to take? Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi said, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
When someone hurts you and you refuse to forgive him or her, you have given your power away. As a result, your power is now with the person who hurt you. It makes you weak. On the other hand, if you forgive the person who hurt you, you have retained control of yourself. No matter the situation, always try to be in control of your behavior.
Don’t allow your emotions to be your boss. Be the boss of your emotions. Good luck!
Putting it Together:
Are you ready to forgive people who have done terrible things to you?