Why do we accept positive feelings, and always reject negative feelings? Negative and positive feelings are part of who we are. They are part of our biology.
Why are we always rejecting negative feelings? Are we helping or hurting ourselves for not accepting negative feelings?
As human beings, we like to stick to things that make us feel good. We often ignore things that make us feel uncomfortable. We always focus on positive feelings, and ignore negative feelings. We should give equal attention to both (positive and negative feelings). They are important for our survival. They direct us to where something is happening in our body, in our environment, and in our society. We should listen to negative feelings, instead of ignoring them.
If you choose not to listen to your feelings, you are closing the door to an opportunity to learn more about yourself. If you listen to your feelings, if you explore your feelings, you will learn more about yourself. William James, the world renowned psychologist, said, “Observing our own feelings can tell us much about our own life.” You cannot separate how you feel inside from how you feel outside. They are one and the same. What you feel outside is a reflection of what you are feeling inside.
Why should we listen to negative feelings?
“She who is sorrowful can force herself to smile, but she who is glad cannot weep.”- Elma Lagerlof
They are signalling you to make a change in your life. When you are feeling bad about something-it doesn’t matter what it is, all you need to do is to make a change. If you ignore your feelings, your pain will intensify. So when you feel terrible about something, don’t resist it. Plan for a change. It is not going to happen overnight. Change is a process. Change is a marathon, not a sprint. In order to do this, you must be ready to change your existing approach to life.
Embrace your feelings.
Whenever you feel bad about yourself, don’t ignore your feelings. It is a great opportunity for you to explore it and learn from it. Don’t run away from your bad feelings. Treat them as you would do to positive feelings. Take constructive actions to manage your negative feelings. Know what you are feeling. Know how you are feeling. Understand what you are feeling.
Putting it Together:
Our feelings are important to us. We should listen and explore our positive and negative feelings to learn more about ourselves.