How To Master Your Inner Self

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“He who reigns within himself and rules his passions, desires, and fears is more than a king.”- John Milton, poet

It is clear that not everybody has the ability to control their inner lives. Some people are good at it; others are still learning how to master it. It pays well when you know exactly what is going on inside your internal warehouse- your mind.

To know yourself, to control yourself, you should be able to control your thoughts and your behavior.

Whatever is not under control spills out of control. In order to achieve something of value, you should be able to manage your behavior.

Have you ever seen a successful person that wasn’t able to control their passions, desires, and fears? I haven’t.

It is good to be passionate, and it is equally good to be ready when your passion is put to the test. You cannot be certain as to whether you are passionate about something or not until it is put to the test. Success starts with passion and the desire to succeed.

The desire to succeed is the pillar behind every successful person. The aspiration to succeed is what is leading the way to the latest discoveries. If you want to succeed, if you want to discover a new ground, you must double your desire to succeed. How? Start by planting a seed of success in your mind. Second, nurture the seed of success you have planted in your mind, and follow through with all your resources. All of these cannot happen without some sort of anxiety or fear in your stomach. People who have done significant things in life were first confronted by fear. But they went ahead and pursued their dreams.

Successful people experience fear, just like you do. They manage their fears very well. They don’t give in to fear; they don’t surrender to fear. Unlike the rest of us, myself included, when we plan to do something that has the potential to change our lives, the first thing that comes to mind is fear. All the fears in the world will gush into our minds like toxic thoughts. Yes, it is like toxic thoughts, because fear has the power to stop people from pursuing their dreams. Fear presents people with negative pictures of what they are about to do. It gives people countless reasons why their plans won’t work. But if you move past these dream-killing reasons, you are closer to achieving your dreams. Sometimes, fear can be people who are not supportive of your plans, or people who want your plans to die. It could also be you. Yes, you!

If you can manage your fears, your passions, and your desires, you are more than a king. You become your own king.

Do you want to be your own king?

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Take Your Time

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“Do not be in a hurry to succeed. What would you have to live for afterwards? Better make the horizon your goal; it will always be ahead of you.”- William Makepeace Thackeray, novelist

It takes more than a day to be an expert in your chosen field. A tower is not constructed in a day. A road is not constructed in a day. The biggest and most profitable companies in the world are not built in a day. Why are you now in a hurry to succeed? Why? Why? Why?

Is it because of the celebrities you see on the TV?

Is it because of the athletes you are watching play brilliantly on the TV?

Or, is it the guy you saw yesterday riding the finest car on the street?

Don’t let those things push you to want to succeed overnight. There is no such thing as overnight success. If you want to be really successful, get ready for a very long ride to the land of success. Yes, a very long ride.

Real success doesn’t happen by accident. It takes time. It takes more than 10,000 hours of meticulous, painstaking practice to reach your goal, according to experts. It takes more than ten years of hard and intentional studies before you can call yourself an expert. So, again, why are you now in a hurry to succeed? Take your time.

Take your time. Take your time to plan, to think, to figure out what you want to do with your life, to figure out where you are going, to prepare yourself mentally for the rough ride. The road to success is rough, not smooth.

Once you figure out what you want to do in life, the next step is to put together a comprehensive, flexible, and reasonable plan to get it done. A comprehensive plan is important because a goal without execution is nothing. You need a map. You need a strategic plan to get things done. Are you ready? Are you ready for the rough ride? Are you ready to commit yourself to a life-long journey to success? Are you ready to invest the time (maybe 10,000 hours or more) to make your dreams happen? Are you?

If you are, know this: It takes time to become an expert. It takes time to reach your goal. It takes time to become a celebrity. It takes time to earn a PhD. It takes time to move from a novice to an expert. It takes time to learn how to drive a car. It takes time for babies to walk without dropping to the ground. It takes time.

In order to succeed in anything, whether it’s flying an airplane or becoming a surgeon, or a soccer player, or a school teacher, it doesn’t happen overnight. It comes with depression, with lots of failures, with anxiety, with lots of preparations, with distractions, and with self-doubt. But if you remain dedicated to making your dreams come true, success is within your reach. You can do it.

Are you ready to commit yourself to a life-long learning?

Are you ready to do whatever it takes (legitimately) to make your dreams come true?

If you are, you are on the right road.

The Future Still Remains

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“When all else is lost, the future still remains.”- Christian Nestell Bovee, writer

When all else is lost, the future still remains, according to Christian Nestell Bovee. Yes, the future still remains. Everything we are chasing lies ahead of us? So, all is not lost.

This is where lots of people have problems. When we are going through tough times, it does not mean after the trying period that everything will come to a halt. No, it won’t. I don’t know if you noticed the crucial words here: “going through.” It says when we are “going through,” it didn’t say “staying there.” There are significant differences between those words. What are some of the differences?

“Going through” means to advance through, to proceed through, to progress through, to move through, and to travel through. Again, it didn’t say “staying there.” “Staying there,” on the other hand, means to settle there, to remain there, to reside there, to stop there, and to wait there.

Why did I spend time to explain the differences between “going through” and “staying there?” I thought that it would be important to make these distinctions. When we are going through tough times, which is part of life, and which we cannot exclude, it doesn’t mean that all is lost. It means we are preparing for the next move; because where we are going is better and bigger than where we are coming from. Everything you are chasing is ahead of you; they are not behind you. Which one has more potential to change your life? Is it the past, or the future?

“Everything you are chasing is ahead of you.”

I believe you have heard stories about people who had lost everything, and later found success in life. They found success because they focused on what was ahead of them, not what was behind them.

If you want to find success in life, separate yourself from the terrible experiences from the past, and focus on what is ahead of you. The past is gone. You cannot change it. But you can change your future with the actions you take today. All is not lost, the future still remains.

All is not lost, plan for the future that you want, and go get it. If others can do it, you can do it too. Be a forward-looking person, and be a positive thinker.

Questions:

Are you ready to forget the bad experiences of the past that have been holding you back?

Are you ready to move forward?

The Right Environment

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The right environment is an environment where you are surrounded by positive, disciplined, supportive, and committed people. No one succeeds alone; you need people to help you grow and develop.

No matter how good or smart you are, without the right system- that is, the right leader, the right coworkers, the right manager, the right mentor, the right customers, and the right stakeholder, you will find it difficult to do very well. The right environment is what people need in order to do well in life. The right environment is what people need in order to grow. Without the right environment, no matter how intelligent you are, you will struggle to succeed. For example, when you place a person who is really talented in the wrong environment, his or her talent will start to deteriorate. On the other hand, when you place the same person or a person with an average intelligence in the right environment and in the right job, they will do very well. So if you want to do well, look for the right environment and the right job. The right environment is the key to a sustainable growth.

As Earl Nightingale once said, “Our environment, the world in which we live and work, is a mirror of our attitudes and expectations.”

We now live in a world where we expect everybody to be a superstar. The question that nobody is asking is: “Do we have the right system in place to help people succeed?” In other words, do we have the right environment for people to grow? Do we have the right environment for people to explore? Do we have the right environment for people to take risks? Do we have the right environment for people to bring out the best in themselves? Do we have them?

If people are not doing well in their jobs, it does not mean that they are stupid or that they are not intelligent enough to handle the job. They are smart. They don’t have the right tools; and they are in the wrong place. For managers, it is important to ask yourselves the following questions before you think of firing anyone:

  • Are they in the right environment?
  • Are they working with the right people?
  • Are they doing the right job?
  • Do they have the right skills to complete the job?
  • Do they need further training?
  • Do they need a mentor?

If you want to enjoy your job, you need the right environment to excel. If not, read the quote below:

According to B. F. Skinner, a renowned psychologist, “If you are old, don’t try to change yourself, change your environment.”

If you don’t like where you are working right now, you have three options:

  1. Change the job, if possible.
  2. Change how you think about your job.
  3. Leave the company. It is up to you.

Remember, there is no such thing as a perfect environment. It is how you think about where you are now that makes it perfect or imperfect. I strongly encourage you to make it perfect.