The Power of Personal Responsibility

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When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot.”- Dalai Lama

The difficulty we have in accepting responsibility for our behavior lies in the desire to avoid the pain of the consequences of that behavior.”- Dr. M. Scott Peck, psychiatrist

Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.”– Sigmund Freud, psychoanalyst

What does it mean to take  personal responsibility?

The power of taking personal responsibility is when you honestly hold yourself accountable for your success, for your failure, and for your future decisions. People don’t like to take responsibility for their actions because we love to blame people for our mess. Stop blaming and own your mess.

It means you have decided to master your life, and to take full control of your life, regardless of the results.

It means you are responsible for your success and failure. You are ready to learn from your mistakes and that you will refrain from blaming others for your mess. You won’t sit in your room and cry for the whole day.

On the other hand, if you fail to take responsibility for your life, if you fail to control your life, if you allow people to control you, if you fail to control your environment, people, your environment, or circumstances will control you.

How to take Personal Responsibility.

Before you start, before you think about taking personal responsibility, you should assess what you can control, know what you cannot control, measure what you can control, and take action. Don’t play the blame game. Take action. Focus on your actions.

Take responsibility for your life if you want to be successful. If you don’t take full responsibility for your life, you are refusing yourself a valuable experience that can be useful in the future. When anything happens to you (good or bad), do not blame anyone, accept it as a part of life.

As I wrote before, life is not without obstacles. Assess what happened and learn from it. Don’t ignore problems, solve problems. If you ignore problems, they will grow bigger.

Once you have succeeded in taking responsibility for your life, you have mastered your life. You are now in control of your life.

All Together:

If you want to be successful in life, you have to take control of your life. If not, people will do it for you.


3 Critical Reasons People Don’t Want To Deal With Their Regrets.

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“The practice of forgiveness is our most important  contribution to the healing of the world.”-Marianne Williamson, spiritual teacher

“The first step in forgiveness is the willingness to forgive.” – Marianne Williamson, spiritual teacher

Below are three critical reasons people don’t want to deal with their regrets:

They are still angry. Things that happen in the past are stored in our memory. Some are easy to forget, others are not. When we remember that moment, our anger level goes up. It is a perfect reaction, but don’t let it control you. Master your emotions. If you want to live a healthy and glorious life, you need to acknowledge what has happened to you, and how you are going to prevent it from ruining your future. You can fix it by changing how you think about it. Forgive yourself.

Practice these words:

It is okay to make mistakes. Mistakes are part of who we are.  I am in control of my life. I am in  control of my anger. Anger will not control me, and never will.

They still feel guilty. People don’t like to talk about their bad past experiences. It brings back sad moments. Know this: “It is okay to think about your past, but don’t stay there. Don’t dwell on your past mistakes forever. People still feel guilty because they don’t want to be seen as a failure; they don’t want to face it, because of what it might bring out. They prefer to keep it.

Practice these words:

I have the power to change my life. I am the master of my life. I have the power to control my life. I will not allow guilt to  hold me back. I am free. I am living a healthy life.

They are still afraid of the damage. People don’t want to talk about or deal honestly with regret because of how it will make them feel. As a result, people are living a life of fear. They don’t know what will happen to them in the future, because of what has happened to them in the past.

Practice these words:

I am my own master. Before I master others, I will master  myself.

All Together: Forgive and be free. When you forgive people that have done terrible things to you, you are also forgiving yourself.