Do Something About It

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“We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.”- Carl  Jung

When you complain about your situation, you are weakening yourself. When you do something about your situation, when you take action about your situation, you are growing yourself. Instead of complaining about your situation, take action. Do something about it. Why complain when the key to your life is in your own hand? Do something about it. Do it yourself. Do not delegate your life to anyone. If you do, the bus will take you to a different direction.

If you are not satisfied with where you are now, if you are not satisfied with your job, if you are not satisfied with your health, if you are not satisfied with your relationships, do something about them. Stop complaining. Nobody is listening to you. When you are ready to take action, people will join you. There is always support when you are ready. Maya Angelou said,”If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”

If you don’t like something,  change it. If you can’t change it,  change your attitude.”-  Maya Angelou

If you don’t like your situation, change it. You can change it because the key to your life is in your OWN hand. Handle it well. Don’t look elsewhere for solutions. The power to change your life, the power to change your situation is within you.

This is big. If you can’t change your situation, change your attitude. Yes, it is true, because there are certain things that are beyond our control. But we have the power to change how we view the world around us. We have the power to change how we think about our situations. We can ALWAYS, always control how we react to situations. If this is you, it is time to change how you look at your situation. Change your attitude, change how you see yourself, and your situation will change. Everything starts in the mind. If you change how you think about things, the things you think about will change. Change your mind to change your situation. In Maya Angelou’s words: “Nothing will happen unless you do.” Nothing will change unless you change it. Do not complain, take action.

All Together:

Do not complain, take action. Do something production to change your situation. Once you have decided to change, the world will support you.

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The Danger of “What if…”

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“What if…” has prevented people from reaching their full potential. It has done a big damage to many people. It has kept many people in a self-prepared prison. It has kept many people in isolation.

Here are some examples of “What ifs…” that have prevented so many people from living a balanced life:

“What if I fail?”

“What if I am not good enough?”

“What if they don’t pick me?”

“What if they don’t like me?”

“What if the school is not my type?”

Wow!

People allow these “What ifs…” to stop them from succeeding because they have allowed them to dominate their minds. They have given it attention. Remember, whatever you give attention grows. Whatever you think about repeatedly, you will become.

Why is it so dangerous to growth?

“What if…” is so terrible to growth because:

It prevents you from being successful. It presents you with the wrong image. It creates images of failure in your head. It prevents you from reaching your goals, because you are so scared to break out of your comfort zone. It keeps you in your comfort zone. The problems with staying in your comfort zone are: 1) You unconsciously reject greatness, prosperity, growth, and advancement. 2) You unconsciously reduce the growth of the people working or associated with you. 3) It demotivates you because there is nothing happening there. You are playing a safe game.

“What if…” prevents you from taking smart risks, because you don’t want to fail, you don’t want to be criticized, and you don’t want to be rejected by others. Rejection is a topic for another day.

Some strategies to fight “What if…” disease.

Your first medication is to take the pill of “So what?” Replace all the negative thoughts in your head with positive thoughts. Don’t let what you think stop you from moving forward. Don’t let what others think stop you from moving forward. Move forward!

Take action. Taking action is the ONLY medication to cure this disease. Don’t avoid anything. Don’t run away from anything. The seed to your prosperity and growth is in what you are avoiding. To conquer this problem, take intentional action. Take strategic actions. Don’t procrastinate. Don’t wait, do it today. Do it now!

Stay away from unproductive friends. The more you associate yourself with your unproductive friends, the more unproductive you will be.

Face your fear. Don’t run away from the thing you are afraid of, face it. It is the fear in your mind that leads to “What if…” disease. If you conquer your fear, you have succeeded in conquering your “What if….” problem. To conquer your fear, double your risk.

Reprogram your mind. You can change your excuses to actions by reprogramming your mind. Change it from failure thinking to success thinking. Create the desire to succeed in your mind.

Use imagination to create an image of success in your mind.

All Together:

If you refuse to take action and drop your “What if…” mentality, if you refuse to reprogram your mind, if you refuse to get rid of those excuses, the ultimate price is failure. When it happens, don’t blame anyone, blame yourself.

The Power of Personal Responsibility

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When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot.”- Dalai Lama

The difficulty we have in accepting responsibility for our behavior lies in the desire to avoid the pain of the consequences of that behavior.”- Dr. M. Scott Peck, psychiatrist

Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.”– Sigmund Freud, psychoanalyst

What does it mean to take  personal responsibility?

The power of taking personal responsibility is when you honestly hold yourself accountable for your success, for your failure, and for your future decisions. People don’t like to take responsibility for their actions because we love to blame people for our mess. Stop blaming and own your mess.

It means you have decided to master your life, and to take full control of your life, regardless of the results.

It means you are responsible for your success and failure. You are ready to learn from your mistakes and that you will refrain from blaming others for your mess. You won’t sit in your room and cry for the whole day.

On the other hand, if you fail to take responsibility for your life, if you fail to control your life, if you allow people to control you, if you fail to control your environment, people, your environment, or circumstances will control you.

How to take Personal Responsibility.

Before you start, before you think about taking personal responsibility, you should assess what you can control, know what you cannot control, measure what you can control, and take action. Don’t play the blame game. Take action. Focus on your actions.

Take responsibility for your life if you want to be successful. If you don’t take full responsibility for your life, you are refusing yourself a valuable experience that can be useful in the future. When anything happens to you (good or bad), do not blame anyone, accept it as a part of life.

As I wrote before, life is not without obstacles. Assess what happened and learn from it. Don’t ignore problems, solve problems. If you ignore problems, they will grow bigger.

Once you have succeeded in taking responsibility for your life, you have mastered your life. You are now in control of your life.

All Together:

If you want to be successful in life, you have to take control of your life. If not, people will do it for you.

3 Critical Reasons People Don’t Want To Deal With Their Regrets.

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“The practice of forgiveness is our most important  contribution to the healing of the world.”-Marianne Williamson, spiritual teacher

“The first step in forgiveness is the willingness to forgive.” – Marianne Williamson, spiritual teacher

Below are three critical reasons people don’t want to deal with their regrets:

They are still angry. Things that happen in the past are stored in our memory. Some are easy to forget, others are not. When we remember that moment, our anger level goes up. It is a perfect reaction, but don’t let it control you. Master your emotions. If you want to live a healthy and glorious life, you need to acknowledge what has happened to you, and how you are going to prevent it from ruining your future. You can fix it by changing how you think about it. Forgive yourself.

Practice these words:

It is okay to make mistakes. Mistakes are part of who we are.  I am in control of my life. I am in  control of my anger. Anger will not control me, and never will.

They still feel guilty. People don’t like to talk about their bad past experiences. It brings back sad moments. Know this: “It is okay to think about your past, but don’t stay there. Don’t dwell on your past mistakes forever. People still feel guilty because they don’t want to be seen as a failure; they don’t want to face it, because of what it might bring out. They prefer to keep it.

Practice these words:

I have the power to change my life. I am the master of my life. I have the power to control my life. I will not allow guilt to  hold me back. I am free. I am living a healthy life.

They are still afraid of the damage. People don’t want to talk about or deal honestly with regret because of how it will make them feel. As a result, people are living a life of fear. They don’t know what will happen to them in the future, because of what has happened to them in the past.

Practice these words:

I am my own master. Before I master others, I will master  myself.

All Together: Forgive and be free. When you forgive people that have done terrible things to you, you are also forgiving yourself.