Workplace Relationships

The relationships you have with your co-workers are so important to you, and the organization. They determine your happiness at work. If the relationships you have with your co-workers and your managers are not healthy, you are not going to be happy at work. You only go to work because you need the money to pay your bills.

You can be happy at work if you take the time to develop SOME great relationships with your co-workers. But remember, you cannot make everybody happy, you can make some of them, who are positively ready to be happy at work, happy. On the other hand, you don’t expect everyone to be happy with you at work. It is not going to happen. Some people will be for you, others will be against you. It is life, you cannot change it.

If you can maintain a healthy and a constructive working relationships with your co-workers, you will really enjoy your work. And your organization will enjoy your work, because you are giving the organization your best.

How to build positive relationships at work?

To build great relationships with the people you work with, here are some suggestions for you:

Show empathy: Try to understanding where they are coming from, put yourself in their situations, and understand them as  person, not just co-workers.

Show gratitude: Always say “thank you” whenever your co-workers help you achieve something.

Show respect: Respect your co-workers, and they will respect you. It is a two-way street.

Be Friendly: People want to work with colleagues that are friendly, not complainers. Be friendly.

Don’t Gossip: When your co-workers find out that you gossip a lot, they will not trust you anymore. They will hold back important information about the organization.

Say Positive Things About Your Colleagues: Never say anything negative about your co-workers. If you don’t have anything to say, keep your mouth shut!

Be an Ethical Worker: Always do the right things.

Don’t forget to work on your social and emotional intelligence.

  • Social Intelligence: how you behave and your understanding of other people in a social settings.
  • Emotional Intelligence: The Understanding of your behavior and other people’s behavior, and how to manage relationships.

Let’s look at some causes of negative relationships at work:

Lack of Respect: If you don’t respect your co-workers, they will not respect you. As I said earlier, it is a two-way street.

They feel they are not part of the organization: When people feel excluded at work, they will not trust anyone. They will come for the money, not the job. They will start to behave in ways that the organization is not comfortable with.

They feel neglected by management: If you don’t show employees that they are important to you, they will show you that your organization is not important to them.

Lack of Trust: When employees don’t trust each other, they will not be too friendly. They will not like to open up. They will prefer to work in silo (alone with nobody).

Zero Empathy: You will here comments like: “I don’t care what is happening to him or her.” This kind of a statement is what you hear in an organization where there is zero empathy.

Lack of Communication: Where there is no trust, there is going to be poor communication. An organization where communication is not a priority, nothing really gets done.

If you are currently working in an organization where the above things happen everyday, it is time for you to start looking for another job. Don’t leave before you find another job. Quit with dignity and respect.




They Know Where They Are Going.

Successful people know where they are going to in life. Unsuccessful people don’t know where they are going to in life. They have no plan. They have no goals. They are wanderers.

People with goals succeed because they know where they are going to.” – Earl Nightingale

Do you know where you are going to? What are your life plans?

It is important to have a life plan because life is a marathon, not a sprint. If you know where you are going to, it makes YOUR journey much easier. It allows you to prepare very well for what is to come- battles that life will throw at you. It increases your focus. It increases your motivation to succeed. It strengthens your inner power to fight the battles along the way. It saves your energy. It prevents distractions (the world is full of all kinds of distractions). It gives you something to fight for. It gives you something to hope for. According to Georges Bernanos, French author, “Hope is a risk that must be run.” It gives you a sense of purpose- a life with meaning. Thomas Carlyle, said, “A man without a goal is like a ship without a rudder.”

For example, if you plan to go on holiday, the first thing you do (after buying your ticket) is to bring out your GPS or a road map (if you still use one). You know for sure that without a GPS, or a road map, you will find it challenging to get to where you are going to. The same principle is applied to life. You need a GOOD road map. Another example is, if you are a student, before you take any course, the first thing you do is to know why you are taking that course. If you don’t have any plan, it wouldn’t make any sense enrolling in it. A concrete plan is necessary to succeed in life.

What happens when you don’t know where you are going to in life?

The following things happen:

  • You wander around with nothing to show for it
  • It means you have no purpose in life, because you are jumping on any bus that comes your way.
  • It means you are watching people get things done.

In order to follow your path to success, SET YOUR OWN GOALS, NOT PEOPLE’S GOALS. Pursue your dreams with all your energy, determination, and focus, you will succeed.

The Power of All of Us.

There is power in all of us.

There is power in diversity of knowledge.

There is power in an inclusive organization.

There is power in an inclusive society.

When an organization is diverse, it brings a lot to the table. It brings different ideas, values, interests, personalities and knowledge, to the table.

One person cannot be smarter than all of us. A collection of ideas is what fosters innovation.

None of us is as smart as all of us.” – Kenneth H. Blanchard

Diversity increases our problem-solving capacity. When we work together, not compete against each other, solutions to the tasks at hand, or the tasks to come, will become available to the team. When we work together, when we put our heads together, we are certainly BETTER than one. None of us is as smart as all of us.

Cooperation produces everything. Competition produces nothing.

Are you going to cooperate? Or, Are you going to compete?

If you want to cooperate, cooperate with all your heart. If you want to compete, compete with strategy.


Reality Vs. Imagination

What is Reality?

What is Imagination?

Reality is what we create, it is what we believe things to be. The question is: Is it really reality?

We don’t know? Because there are limits to what we call reality. In the world of reality, there are lots of limitations.

Why? Because your reality is not my reality.

Werner Heisenberg, said, “What we observe is not nature itself, but nature exposed to our method of questioning.”

While imagination, on the other hand, has no limitations. There are no limits to what you can imagine. This is where things happens. Without imagination, it is impossible to come up with new ideas. In the world of imagination, there is no limit. Mark Victor Hansen, said, “In imagination, there are no limitations.” Everything is open to questioning. Everything is open to interpretation. Everything is open to processing. This is the world of innovation. Albert Einstein said, “Imagination is more powerful than knowledge.”

As Jean- Jacques Rousseau, a Swiss philosopher said, “The world of reality has its limits, the world of imagination is boundless.”

Reality is half. Imagination is full.