“We cannot change our last chapter, as it has already been written in ink. But we can change the way our next chapter will be written because we are still holding the pen in our hands.”- Lisa Nichols
Can we change our last chapter?
The answer to this question is “No” Why? Because yesterday is gone. What you can do is to learn from the past, and focus on the moment, and what is to come. It is important not to focus too much on the past, because you will miss the critical moment that will strengthen your future. If you miss your opportunity today, you will not expect it tomorrow. If you don’t plan anything today, nothing will happen tomorrow. If you don’t plan anything today, today, tomorrow is going to be very dry. Yes, very dry. There will be no rain to help your plants grow. The farmers will explain it better. You have probably heard this saying that, “Whatever you sow today, you will reap tomorrow.” For example, if you are a student, and you refused to study for your exams, don’t expect to do very well on the exam. With only one exception: if the condition of the exam is beyond your cognition (your brainpower), you can explain it to yourself, and to others why you didn’t do so well. Let me try to put it in a better way: If you study in a half-baked way (that means without intentions), you will get a half-baked result. You always get what you put into something. It is life. It is the law of cause and effect, which states that for every effect there is a cause.
“You always get what you put into something.”
Since we cannot change the past chapter, we can learn from it. We can learn from what happened to us. We can learn from history. Why? So that we don’t repeat the same mistake again. You learn from the past, so that you don’t spend your God given time dwelling on the past. Because your future is better than the past. Life is changing. Everything is changing. If you are not changing, you are dying. Please change. You have to focus on today. You have to be in the moment. “If you want the present to be different from the past, study the past.”,B. Spinoza, a Dutch philosopher once said. As Emily Dickinson said, “Forever is composed of now.” Absolutely! If you want tomorrow to be good, start the preparation today. Thomas Carlyle, a Scottish philosopher, said, “Our main business is not to see what lies DIMLY at a distance, but to see what lies CLEARLY at hand.”. Create the future you are looking for. Create your environment. Nobody will do it for. You are the driver of your life. Drive it carefully. Don’t give the key to anyone, they will intentionally or unintentionally drive you to a different direction, which will take forever to come back from.
How can I prepare for tomorrow? What should I do? What shouldn’t I do? Who will go with me?
- Concentrate on the moment. Concentrate on what is happening right now, not what has happened yesterday.
- Assess yourself. By assessing yourself, ask yourself the following questions: 1) Is what I am currently doing relevant to my future? 2) Are my associations (friends and family members) dragging back or pushing me forward toward my dreams? 3) What is it that I need to remove from my life? (Things that are cluttering my progress) 4) Who is in my contact list that can help me grow (personally and professionally)? 5) What have I been doing right? 6) What have I been doing wrong? 7) How will I change what I have been doing wrong?.
- Ask the right questions. if you want to know where you are going to, ask the right questions. However, according to W. Edwards Deming, an American engineer, “You shouldn’t ask questions without knowledge.” Don’t ask questions just to make yourself feel good. Ask questions with the intentions of knowing better. Eric Schmidt, former CEO of Google, said, “We run this company on questions, not answers.” Good questions are designed to bring out good answers, and to produce even MORE questions to explore. Asking the right questions allow us to dive deeper into the “blue ocean of curiosity”, which lead to EVEN more questions, as I mentioned above. People judge you based on the type of questions you ask and how you present them, not on the answers you voiced out of your mouth. Voltaire, a French writer, put it this way: “Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers.”
Why is asking the right questions so important?
- Questions awaken your brain, answers put your brain to sleep.
- Questions dive into the “ocean of curiosity,” answers touch on the surface of the “ocean of curiosity.”
- Good questions are stimulants, answers are depressants
- Questions awaken our thinking brain cells, answers weaken our thinking brain cells.
In order to keep your brain cells alive, keep asking the right questions. You will get the right results, and more questions to explore.