Can We Change Our Last Chapter?

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We cannot change our last chapter, as it has already been written in ink. But we can change the way our next chapter will be written because we are still holding the pen in our hands.”- Lisa Nichols

Can we change our last chapter?

The answer to this question is “No” Why? Because yesterday is gone. What you can do is to learn from the past, and focus on the moment, and what is to come. It is important not to focus too much on the past, because you will miss the critical moment that will strengthen your future. If you miss your opportunity today, you will not expect it tomorrow. If you don’t plan anything today, nothing will happen tomorrow. If you don’t plan anything today, today, tomorrow is going to be very dry. Yes, very dry. There will be no rain to help your plants grow. The farmers will explain it better. You have probably heard this saying that, “Whatever you sow today, you will reap tomorrow.” For example, if you are a student, and you refused to study for your exams, don’t expect to do very well on the exam. With only one exception: if the condition of the exam is beyond your cognition (your brainpower), you can explain it to yourself, and to others why you didn’t do so well. Let me try to put it in a better way: If you study in a half-baked way (that means without intentions), you will get a half-baked result. You always get what you put into something. It is life. It is the law of cause and effect, which states that for every effect there is a cause. 

“You always get what you put into something.”

Since we cannot change the past chapter, we can learn from it. We can learn from what happened to us. We can learn from history. Why? So that we don’t repeat the same mistake again. You learn from the past, so that you don’t spend your God given time dwelling on the past. Because your future is better than the past. Life is changing. Everything is changing. If you are not changing, you are dying. Please change. You have to focus on today. You have to be in the moment. “If you want the present to be different from the past, study the past.”,B. Spinoza, a Dutch philosopher once said. As Emily Dickinson said, “Forever is composed of now.” Absolutely! If you want tomorrow to be good, start the preparation today. Thomas Carlyle, a Scottish philosopher, said, “Our main business is not to see what lies DIMLY at a distance, but to see what lies CLEARLY at hand.”. Create the future you are looking for. Create your environment. Nobody will do it for. You are the driver of your life. Drive it carefully. Don’t give the key to anyone, they will intentionally or unintentionally drive you to a different direction, which will take forever to come back from.

How can I prepare for tomorrow? What should I do? What shouldn’t I do? Who will go with me?

  1. Concentrate on the moment. Concentrate on what is happening right now, not what has happened yesterday.
  2. Assess yourself. By assessing yourself, ask yourself the following questions: 1) Is what I am currently doing relevant to my future? 2) Are my associations (friends and family members) dragging back or pushing me forward toward my dreams? 3) What is it that I need to remove from my life? (Things that are cluttering my progress) 4) Who is in my contact list that can help me grow (personally and professionally)? 5) What have I been doing right? 6) What have I been doing wrong? 7) How will I change what I have been doing wrong?.
  3. Ask the right questions. if you want to know where you are going to, ask the right questions. However, according to W. Edwards Deming, an American engineer, “You shouldn’t ask questions without knowledge.” Don’t ask questions just to make yourself feel good. Ask questions with the intentions of knowing better. Eric Schmidt, former CEO of Google, said, “We run this company on questions, not answers.” Good questions are designed to bring out good answers, and to produce even MORE questions to explore. Asking the right questions allow us to dive deeper into the “blue ocean of curiosity”, which lead to EVEN more questions, as I mentioned above. People judge you based on the type of questions you ask and how you present them, not on the answers you voiced out of your mouth. Voltaire, a French writer, put it this way: “Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers.”

Why is asking the right questions so important?

  • Questions awaken your brain, answers put your brain to sleep.
  • Questions dive into the “ocean of curiosity,” answers touch on the surface of the “ocean of curiosity.”
  • Good questions are stimulants, answers are depressants
  • Questions awaken our thinking brain cells, answers weaken our thinking brain cells.

In order to keep your brain cells alive, keep asking the right questions. You will get the right results, and more questions to explore.


Permission To Succeed

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It ‘s real simple. If you never give yourself permission to fail, you’ve never really given yourself permission to succeed.”-  Lisa Nichols

Do you want to succeed? If so, give yourself  permission to fail.

To give yourself permission to succeed means to allow yourself to try new things, to explore new territories, to experiment with new things, and to make mistakes without the fear of failure in mind.

As you know, as I know, as we know, success is the product of multiple failures. According to James Altucher, the secret to success is disappointment. For instance, look at how many times Thomas Edition tried his “Light Bulb” experiments, but after multiple failures, his name is now ingrained in the history of successful inventors. Winston Churchill said, “History is written by the victors.” And, “Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” Nobody succeed in their careers without being enthusiastic about their jobs, or what they do.

Let’s dive deeper into what it REALLY means to give yourself permission to succeed. So, What does it REALLY means to give yourself permission to succeed?

  • It allows you to keep trying, even in the face of doubts
  • It means to remove fear and doubts from your mind. As you know, in order to succeed at what you do, or in life, you have to first remove fear and doubt from your mind. As Edward Deming, an American engineer, once said, “Whenever there is fear, you will get wrong figures.” When you put fear first, you will get the wrong results. But if you embrace any task with a strong conviction that you will succeed, you will succeed. Robert Collier said, “Your chances of success in in any undertaking, can always be measured by your belief in yourself.”
  • It means to be hopeful. As Fyodor Dostoyevsky, a Russian novelist, said, “To live without hope is to cease to live.” You have to be hopeful if you are to succeed. Hope will serve as your source of energy. When your energy is down, you refill with hope.
  • It means to never, never, never give up, as Winston Churchill once said. Don’t quit. Quitters never win anything. You are closer to your dream than you think. If you want to be a winner, never quit. To quote Winston Churchill again, “If you are going through hell, keep going.” I will add to that: “If you are going through tough times, keep going.” You are almost there. Margaret Thatcher said, “You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it.” When you think you are losing your battle, think about how many times Abraham Lincoln failed before he became the president of the United States of America. Think about that! It is inspirational. Isn’t it?

If you are going through tough times, keep going.”

If Abraham Lincoln can do it, you can do it, I can do it, together, we can do it. By not giving up, you have given yourself permission to succeed. You will succeed.