Fear is a Killer

Fear is a killer. Everyday, we face different challenges that require us to be bold, to be courageous, and not to allow fear to cripple us. Fear has the power to cripple your plans, fear has the power to paralyze your plans, and fear has the power to kill your dreams.

If you want to succeed in life, you have to do whatever you can to conquer fear. Bertrand Russell, a British philosopher, said, “To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom. Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.”

You have to be courageous in order to succeed in life. You have to be bold, fearless, but not arrogant. There is genius in boldness. I think this quote belongs to Albert Einstein. To succeed, you have to confront fear. You cannot achieve anything big without first eliminating fear from your mind. James Allen said, “Fear and doubt should be rigorously excluded; they are dis-interesting elements which break up the straight line of effort, rendering it crooked, ineffectual, and useless.”

Don’t allow fear and doubt to stop you from achieving your dream. According to Paulo Coelho, a Brazilian novelist, “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”

Fear of failure is what separate the rich from the poor. The rich understand fear, and they manage it well. It does not stop them from going after their dreams. They understand that there is no hope without fear. The poor people understand fear, and allowed it to stop them from going after their dreams. As a result, they will end up not doing anything productive with their God given life. George Addair said, “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.” He is right. if you are able to get ride of fear, or manage it well, success and confidence is within your reach.

The primary reason why fear exists is to stop people from reaching their full potential. If you eliminate or manage fear in a productive way, fear will leave you alone. But if you welcome fear, or manage it unproductively, you have given fear the room to dominate your actions. If you are able to stop fear and doubt, you have crippled fear. James Allen said, “Doubt and fear are the two great enemies of knowledge, and he who encourages them, who does not slay them, thwarts himself at every step.

If you allow fear to dominate you, you will not make any progress in life.

Fear is not your friend, it is your worst enemy. Treat it as such.

According to Les Brown, “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.”

Live your dreams. Fear is a dream killer. Don’t let fear kill your dream. If you allow fear to be your master, you will be a slave to fear- forever. Whatever controls you is your master. Don’t let fear be your master. If you allow fear to be your master, fear will pocket you forever. Stop fear before it stops you. Don’t give fear any room to grow. If nurture or accommodate fear, it will grow, and take control of our life. If you starve fear, it will not grow, it will die.

A man who is not afraid is not aggressive, a man who has no sense of fear of any kind is really free, a peaceful man.”— Jiddu Krishnamurti, Indian philosopher

Whatever you feed, grows. Don’t feed fear. Feed confidence and courage, you will prosper.

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Nobody Can Help You, But You.

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Nobody can help you succeed, ONLY you can help yourself.

Nobody can help you succeed in life, but you. ONLY YOU. Only you can make yourself a success or a failure. You can help yourself succeed by TAKING RESPONSIBILITY of whatever decisions you make.

You can make yourself a success by CONTROLLING YOUR THOUGHTS. You can make yourself a failure by POINTING FINGERS AT OTHERS FOR YOUR SITUATION. Pointing fingers at others, or blaming others, means you are not responsible for your actions, they are. According to M. Scott Peck, American psychiatrist, “The difficulty we have in accepting responsibility for our behavior lies in the desire to avoid the pain of the consequences of that behavior.”

Nobody can help you but you. Nobody can help you unless you are willing to start the journey. Nobody can help you unless you are willing to change. If you want to remain in the same place, in the same unproductive job, you don’t need to change.

Nobody Can Help You, But You.”

James Allen said, “A strong man cannot help a weaker man unless the weaker man is willing to be helped, and even then the weak man must become strong in himself; he must, by his own efforts, develop the strength he admires in another.”

Nobody can help you unless you are ready to be uncomfortable.

What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” — Abraham Maslow, a renowned psychologist.

Changing who you think you are to who you REALLY are, is uncomfortable. Nobody can help you unless you “double” your energy. People can only assist you , but they won’t do the REAL work for you. You will do the REAL work yourself.

REAL work: the types of activities that will bring out the best in you. REAL work also means authentic work.

REAL WORK = AUTHENTIC WORK = REAL DEVELOPMENT = REAL CHANGE = REAL YOU.

Once people see that you are trying, they will jump on your ride to help you succeed. This will only happen if you allow them into your world. When you are ready, people are ready to help you. When you are not ready, people are not ready to help you. Be ready.

Your Early Habits

A habit is what we do everyday.

We develop bad habits.

We develop good habits.

Good habits help us grow in life.

Bad habits stop us from moving forward.

Good habits can be turned into bad habits

Bad habits can be turned into good habits

When you are able to turn bad habits into good habits, you will start to move in the right direction. Things will start to get better.

By submitting to a bad habit one forfeits the right to rule over himself.”– James Allen

Changing habits takes time.

Aristotle, the Greek philosopher, said, “Good habits formed at youth make all the difference.”

If you want to change bad habits to good habits, here is what you should know:

  • It takes time to change a habit
  • Get help. Don’t do it on your own.
  • Understand how it affects your behavior.

In addition, according to James Allen, to break bad habits, you should:

  • Form good habits (the same way you formed bad habits)
  • Give scrupulous attention to the duty of the present moment.
  • Do vigorously, and at once, whatever has to be done
  • Live by the rule
  • Control the tongue
  • Control the mind.

People do well at what they love

People do well at what they love. They put everything into the job they love to do. When people love what they do, it seems they are not doing anything. Because they spend their time and energy in productive ways.

When you do what you love, it becomes part of your life- it is no longer a job, but something meaningful to you. Something that gives you joy. Something that is your calling. Something that gives you happiness. Something that gives you a sense of purpose.

When you do well at work, “the pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work.”

Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work.”– Aristotle

When people do what they love, here is what it looks like:

  • They prosper faster than they could have imagined
  • They are enthusiastic about their jobs
  • They love going to work
  • They grow personally and professionally
  • They form better social connections at work

But if you don’t love what you are doing, the psychological, social, and economic costs are big. It affects your overall health and well-being.

How to enjoy your work.

  • Learn more about your job
  • Find something interesting about your job, and focus on it
  • Don’t think negatively about your job
  • Don’t say bad things about your colleagues
  • Don’t say bad things about your boss, manager, supervisor.
  • Find a mentor in your workplace
  • Speak to people that are doing the same job, so you can learn from them.
  • Approach all  assignments with an open-mind.