“The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware, joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware.”– Henry Miller, writer
Buddha famously said, “Work out your own salvation. Do not depend on others.”
Your life is yours to live. The worst mistake you can make is to allow someone else to control your life. If you allow people to control your life, then you are not living your own God given life. The aim of life is to live a fulfilled life, not a borrowed life.
The fines thing you can do for yourself is to be your own driver. Drive yourself to wherever you want to go. No matter what, always be your own driver. It is important to be your own driver because you know yourself better than anyone out there. You know what you are good at; you know what you are not so good at. Most important, you know where you are going to in life. Seneca famously said, “If one does not know to which port one is sailing, no wind is favorable.” That is right.
If you are the one driving yourself, you know where you are going to. But if it is someone else driving you to somewhere, for sure, you don’t know how it is going to end. It is hard to face reality. Face your own reality, and you will never regret it.
What does it mean to you to have control over your life?
In life, it means a lot. Human beings don’t like to be controlled. We don’t like to be told what to do, and what not to do. We like to figure things out ourselves. That is what makes life interesting. That is what makes us want to try more strange things. That is why we want to experiment with new things.
When you are in control of your life, it means you can do what you want, when you want it, and how you want it. But is it still possible to live like that in today’s society where everything is controlled and regulated? Yes, it is still possible. You just have to mindful how you go about doing it.
The purpose of living is to be able to have control over our decisions. We make decisions on a daily basis. If someone else is in control of your life, the person is in control of your destiny. Then you are not living. You are just existing. To live a fulfilled and accomplished life, we should be in total control of our lives. Period.
“Beware of false knowledge, it is more dangerous than ignorance.”– George Bernard Shaw, playwright
“What a man thinks either builds up his character or pulls it down.“- Henry Thomas Hamblin
“You are the architect of your own life: it is yours to make or to mar. By the power of thoughts you are building; are you building aright?”– Henry Thomas Hamblin
Be honest with yourself. If you are not true to yourself, you will find it hard to pursue your purpose in life. And if you are not pursuing your purpose in life, you are pursuing someone else’s dreams. Cynthia Ozick said, “To want to be what one can be is purpose in life.”
To be true to yourself, make sure your dreams are yours. You need a clear vision, a clear goal, a definite chase of your purpose. But if you are not true to yourself, you cannot pursue your purpose.
For example, if you are good at something, and you are blindly pursuing something that you are not good at, you are not being honest with yourself. You are deceiving yourself. You are redirecting yourself to a different direction. A direction that will never lead you to your final destination. It will lead you to a land of unhappiness.
“It takes more effort to avoid the truth than it takes to face it.”- Robert J. Braathe
No matter where you are, always be true to yourself. Don’t let people tell you something different. You are who you are for a reason. Your reasons for being here are what you should pursue. If you pursue your WHY with all your power, you will achieve your dreams. But if you are not honest with yourself, if you keep telling yourself lies, if you keep doing the wrong things, if you keep pretending that everything is okay with you, you will never achieve your purpose in life. Learn how to face reality. Don’t ignore reality. If you do, it will come after you.
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”- Kierkegaard
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forward.“- Kierkegaard
To understand why you are where you are right now, it is important to go back to evaluate some of your past decisions. Once you have done that, no matter how ugly your findings might be, put yourself together and start again. It is never too late to start again.
“He who risks and fails can be forgiven. He who never risks and never fails is a failure in his whole being.”– Paul Tillich, philosopher
It is okay to fail in life. Failure is part of the game of life. The difference between the rich and the poor is how they manage failure. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you from achieving your dreams. If you try and fail, you are not a failure. But if you don’t try and fail, you are a failure.
“All progress takes place outside the comfort zone.”– Michael John Bobak, from email@example.com
If you want to grow in life, in your career, comfort zone is not the right place for you. It is the wrong place to be. There is nothing happening there. Comfort zone is a dead zone, not a progress zone. Don’t be scared to try new things. Challenge yourself to grow. Where there is no challenge, there is no growth. If you want to grow, you must challenge yourself. You must do new things. You must think in new ways. Embrace it, and you will grow.
“Men are only clever at shifting blame from their own shoulders to those of others.”– Livy, Roman historian
No matter where you are, what you are doing, with whom you are doing it, always take responsibility for your actions. It makes you stronger, not weaker.
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”- Lewis B. Smedes
Forgiveness means freedom. When you forgive those who have hurt you, you are not letting them off the hook of pain, you are letting yourself off the hook of pain and resentment. When you forgive people, you are letting go of the past. You are now ready to move forward. It does not mean you are letting the other person go unpunished. It means that you are letting go of the pain inflicted upon you by that person.
So, why do we forgive?
In her book The How of Happiness: A New Approach To Getting The Life You Want, Sonja Lyubomirsky writes: “In the long run, the preoccupation, hostility, and resentment that we harbor serve only to hurt us, both emotionally and physically.” She adds: “Forgiveness can be regarded in the larger context of community and society; it can deepen our sense of shared humanity (that we are not alone in experiencing hurts) and strengthens our personal relationships and our wider connections with others.”
You forgive people to let yourself off the hook of pain and resentment, to let go of the past, to be yourself again, to enjoy your life, to live in the moment, to focus on what is relevant to you and others, to be happy, to improve your health and well-being, to let the other person go, to free yourself from prisoner, to connect with loving people, to build your character, and to love and be loved again.
Don’t allow resentment to poison your life. Choose happiness, love, humility, courage, gratitude, and forgiveness, and move on. Enjoy your life!